hey...u r a guy n u "step" guy....aduiz....

no all guys r like that....

Well, i had the same problem too. I got too close with this friend. Things started to go all berserk. I was so like unstable. Till i manage to pull myself back and think for myself. Just don't let this kinda things ruin you my dear . Its really complicated , i know. IT IS ! Just learn to let go and get used to it. Cuz one fine day, our best friends will always be around when ever we need them . They bring joy to our life. Seriosly.

Cheers.

But, when i plan wanna step back and give up..then he sure will step in back my life..sometimes when i didnt call him o sms for days then he will suddenly call me when he is at work o free time to chat with me...so really 50/50 when he do that..really 50% wanna give up 50% dowan give up...so i now also 50/50 actually...everytime also like that..when wanna give up..he sure will close to me...

my frens says that he wants me to continue love him..but dowan to be with me..actually i also "tak sampai hati" wanna let go...

i do have a very close girl friend, and we seem to be doing very fine.

since we r both in the same class in the college, and that we always go out together, watching movies and shopping, we got the whole college thinking that we are couples. even some of the lecturers tease me with her.

i started to get uncomfortable with it, but she seems to be more relaxed then i do, and that we still keep on going out.

never in my thought that i want to make her my gf, i cant imagine myself being her BF.

those stuff are typical la bro. it does happen to almost everyone. well an example is me. cause it happens to me to once but it turn out that we started liking each other more then just friends. hehe

My Dear, I know its difficult but learn to let go. Okay ? That guy likes the side attention he gets from you and sometimes they find refuge in girls like us. We are close friends, not part timer. So its like when he wanna call, he call la. Don't you feel degraded? As a girl you have to have your dignity and stand up for yourself. Don't let this kinda guys push you around. Not worth it la. And as you said, he calls you when he's free or at the office? What does that show? He is calling you and not his girlfriend. He is just killing some spare time and that excludes his own girlfriend. He wants you to love him but he is reluctant to be with you? Come on. Please tell me you are better than that. Understand that he is just treating you as a part timer.

LOL..part timer..kekekkeke..
funny ler

Of course guys and girls can be good frens. However, one have to admit that its not easy to get one good fren in the opposite sex.. I'm lucky to have one.

Having a close friend from the opposite sex is always a joy as it is easier to communicate regarding any topic. Seriously.

at first i do think that guys n gals can be good fren ...
but once i experience myself i know that it is really hard to stay on with "fren" only...

Yeap, we can. but we gotta have limits, or else..we might end up falling in love with each other. =s

Boys and girls sure can be good friends..

agree

i have a best fren,she's a gal,we know each other for years ady...and still good.there's no secret between us and yea,we nvr fall in love.

i had crush for her fren once,so did she on my fren..

it all depends whether u can maintain yr correct mindset or not..dun bcoz of tat gal treat u better a bit..be close to u and u think she got feelings for u..or else by confessing to her bout tat u will most probably ruin yr frenship

like owes, gals like to be hurt,

the more u get hurt the more u yearn for em, you're not the 1st of this kind

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Added on July 20, 2008, 1:42 pmwhy not?

is it becaz he is not the hotcake u dreamt of?

is he not that cutie pie u drool of?

in short, not up to ur rigid criteria

This post has been edited by olman: Jul 20 2008, 01:43 PM

if he's damn rich with extra cute and handsome face,with well-built body plus genius mind sumore very very gentleman...u sure wont find it disgusting rite?

so when u say its 'disgusting'...pls state yr point y u say tat

i find it pretty awkward if a best guy fren having special interests in me. its like even precaution hints of "i won't be fond of him" also no use. so i rather have socially guy frens than having 1 best guy fren to always hang out with.

yea i agree to that. disgusting can be like "wtf" and "this is wrong" and piles of goosebumps all over ur body when u just thought of it, especially those u have known for long. i doesn't matter if he's the type that "all girls will fall for", no sparks means no sparks.

Disgusting is a strong word. Hmmmmm....

definitely! lol.. in fact.. i have more guy close frens compared to girls.. just a feeling that girls would backstab me more.. xD

seriously, i dont mind being a part timer if he is happy...coz i dowan after when i step back then we r not that close n if i really want to step back then i will straight break off our friendship..pain once better than keep paining when still frens..but now i cant break our friendship yet coz we will still bump into each other in college..wan also after he/me graduate 1st..if not when in college bump to each other feels weird...

Well, good luck to you then.