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spunkberry
post Mar 2 2010, 12:09 PM

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I rewrote the TS's situation. please read my post on the first page.
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post Mar 2 2010, 12:13 PM

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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Mar 2 2010, 12:09 PM)
I rewrote the TS's situation. please read my post on the first page.
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post Mar 2 2010, 01:35 PM

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me age 27 and my girlfrend 23 dated 1 and half year i got 2 ex before 1st is 5 years 2nd is 3 years none of this 2 ex give me a feel that after break up i feel suicidal....although this girl is not dated long but i love her much!!!! we recent argue on 2 weeks... and my bad tempered too...past two month we argue i said break up and then we together back...now she said we break up and be frend back...i duno why i realyl sad...i even beg her and apologize to her many times oso said be frend back....

start from past two day nitewev argue and break up and then i send here back home, and i said sory...after she back home me going back too after that i called her on morning but she dun 1 answer..then i go her home find her and even beg her but she said be friend... yesterday nite i called her, the 1st voice i heard i know she is crying but she pretend not, and v chat almost 1 half hour..our chat she cry very much..if she cry is stil love me?? why dun gv me a chance again to prove my mistake?? in the conversation she said thank you fore me care her so much and help her alot even said we be frens and i said i willing to wait..she said if im wait then she dun gv me chance oso no use.. i really duno we stil can get back or not??
she is the one that hold me up when im down(my business) and now after she have break with me i really know that without her i cant even happy..she got last time said with me my tempered to change and i promised her to change but i really got try but when argue my tempered out again now i lose her only know im wrong and regret!! and she said now only know how to appreciate after all too late
and she promised today we go out for breakfast because we both today is offday, when i ask her for breakfast she seems 1 to refuse coz she said she duno how tohandle maybe her emotions and said maybe me still think got chance again..then afterall she agree to go breakfast with me!! what should i do later?
i really need some expert advice...those are playing pls dun gv comment here thx

UPDATED-2
i have breakfast wit her just now and we chat and go for breakfast...when i go find her i go 1 stall that sell a drink that very unique she very like 1, this is often she said 1 to buy but me sometimes forget or lazy go there coz of 1 drink..today i go there to buy the ppl said no more oledy ask me come back on 12pm..so i accompany her go bank pay card and car loan we in the car chat many tings and she oso seem noting and got laugh..but i know most of lyn member tell me just be friend 1st so i heard from you all..be patient..then after breakfast i suggest go cinema, and she said ok with it i really happy, then time is 12pm i drive my car park around opposite building run towards the drink shop and buy for her..she seems very happy, and after cinema on the way back we chat alot even, because she is a girl that is (keras kepala)..and she said be frends..but we seems nothing just happy chat but why she stil dunwan us together?? and she got said she one find the guy not like me, and on those very succeded in business when go out ppl will said oh(her bf is a business succeded) evryone proud...im a usinessman too but my company only 2 years old..i tell her this have to slow slow go up...my business is wholesale girls shoes provide to night market seller and that is my own stall too..and i got customer come to take stock with me too...but not much..my company is growing up, unfortunately you all know the crisis happen our business and all ppl oso not good..even my friend at sg.wang oso drop 70% busineess...i work very hard oledy.. she said she one to be single for a time.. what can i do??
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i really surprised and happy she call me just now and we chat bout almost 1 hour...why she call is she said her ah yee(relative), she live with her, they oledy know what happen, her family is very straight one but they are at johor she at kl here work..her parents always think she is a child even we been together oso not easy..and her mom tell her ah yee that not like her sometimes come to my home stay..mostly on saturday only..and her ah yee greet her happy single(i think this is her mom said to her ah yee one) then she said suddenly think bout me and call me...and i feel she little bit crying...so we chat on and i no ask her we been together back..she said dun wait her later i do all things and controlled my tempered d, and said dun one together back just waste our time..then we oso chat nicely oledy..

ladies and gentlemen of lyn member...i really dunno what should i do next???

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I am 27 years old, my girlfriend is 23. We've been together for a year and a half. I have two exes; one lasted 5 years and the other 3 years. Neither one made me feel "suicidal" when we broke up, but even though I've only been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, I love her very much.

Two weeks ago, we argued, especially since I'm quite bad-tempered. During arguments the past two months, I made good on my threat to break up with her, but we got back together. Now, she's saying that we should just break up and go back to being just friends.

I don't know why I'm really down about this; I even begged her and apologized to her many times, but she insisted on staying just friends. Two days ago, we argued and broke up. I sent her home and apologized. After I got home, I called her the next day but she didn't answer the call. I then went to her place to look for her and even begged her to take me back again but she said that we were better off as friends. Last night, I called her, and I heard her crying but she pretended she wasn't and we talked for half an hour during which she cried often. If she's crying, does that mean that she still loves me? Why doesn't she give me a second chance to rectify my mistake?

While I was talking to her, she thanked me for taking care of her and helping her out a lot and even said that we would be friends. I told her that I would wait for her, but she said that it's no use waiting if she wasn't going to give me another chance. I have no idea if we can ever get back together.

She held me up when I was down, and I've only realized now after she's broken up with me that I can't be happy without her. She's mentioned my bad temper to me before, and urged me to change it, and I promised her that I would change it for her. I really tried, but whenever we argue, my temper takes control of me again and it took losing her to realize that I was wrong and I'm regretting my actions now. She even said that I have now only learned to appreciate what I've lost - too late.

She said we would go out for breakfast today because we're both off, but when I asked her out, she seemed reluctant to because she said she didn't know how to handle her emotions and said that I might still have a chance with her ... and then she agreed to have breakfast with me.

What should I do? I really need some advice.
Please don't comment if you're not serious.

UPDATE 2
I had breakfast with her earlier. Before I met up with her, I went to a particular hawker stall that sells a unique drink that she enjoys. She often hints that she wants me to get her the drink, but I either forget or am too lazy to go out of my way to get one drink. When I got to the stall, the seller told me that they were out of the drink and told me to come back again at 12pm, so I decided to accompany her to the bank to pay off her credit card and car loan. While we were in the car, we chatted about a lot of things and she seemed to have forgotten our situation and laughed. I know most of the LYN members would tell me to just be friends with her and to be patient. After breakfast, I suggested the cinema and she said okay. I was really happy. Then it was 12pm, and I drove my car over to the other building to get her the drink - she seemed happy with that. After the movie, we chatted even more, and because she's stubborn, she said again that we were just friends. I didn't understand; we were talking as if nothing happened, why doesn't she want us to be together? Then she said she found a guy unlike me, one of those who have succeeded in the business world and is someone that a lot of people are proud of. I'm a businessman too, but my company is only two years old, and I told her that I have to take it slow in success - my business is a wholesale girls' shoe supplier to pasar malam sellers. I have customers who take stock with me too, but I don't have many of them. My company is growing, but you all know about the (economy?) crisis that affected businesses globally - even my friend in Sungei Wang lost 70% of his business. I'm already working very hard, but she said that she wants to be single for a while. What can I do about this?

UPDATE 3
I was really surprised and happy when she called me earlier and talked for about an hour. She called because her Ah Yee (she lives with her relative)  knows what happened between us. Her family is in Johor, while she's here in KL for work. Her parents treat her like a child, even though we've been together for this long. Her mother told her Ah Yee that her mother wasn't happy with her staying over at my place, most often on Saturdays, and her Ah Yee was happy that she was single ... and she told me that she suddenly thought about me and called me. I thought she was crying quietly, so I kept talking with her and didn't ask if she would take me back. She told me again to not wait for her because she said it would be a waste of time if I made all the effort in the world to do something about my bad temper only to realize that we weren't going to get back together anymore. After that, we went back to having our normal conversations.

Ladies and gentlemen of LYN, I really don't know what I should do next.


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post Mar 2 2010, 01:39 PM

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Spunk... You so free huh? Haha
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post Mar 2 2010, 01:46 PM

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wow.could u help to check my thesis too?really much appreciated. biggrin.gif

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QUOTE(Joshua_0718 @ Mar 2 2010, 12:39 AM)
Spunk... You so free huh? Haha
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lololol yeah I know. .. mou yeh cho. the really sad part is that I actually managed to decipher what he was saying

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QUOTE(Joshua_0718 @ Mar 2 2010, 01:39 PM)
Spunk... You so free huh? Haha
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rewrite people post summore laugh.gif banyak masa tu.
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post Mar 2 2010, 01:50 PM

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I'm sorry that atrocious English pisses me off enough to motivate me to rewrite the damn thing
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Beside getting advice,here you can learn English too LOL
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post Mar 2 2010, 02:48 PM

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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Mar 2 2010, 01:50 PM)
I'm sorry that atrocious English pisses me off enough to motivate me to rewrite the damn thing
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really thx for ur guide to my englishh...thx ya
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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Mar 2 2010, 01:50 PM)
I'm sorry that atrocious English pisses me off enough to motivate me to rewrite the damn thing
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Next time you got English essay homework just post on Lowyat. spunk will help you edit laugh.gif
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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Mar 2 2010, 01:47 PM)
lololol yeah I know. .. mou yeh cho. the really sad part is that I actually managed to decipher what he was saying
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post Mar 2 2010, 03:35 PM

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sad for you dude. seems she found someone with bigger wealth right from her message. she is in-decisive. there are u that still care for her vs a new guy there. hard decision for her.

best can be said r, dont let go too early, but do let go when its tied up for too long.
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QUOTE(atlantis2007 @ Mar 2 2010, 03:35 PM)
sad for you dude. seems she found someone with bigger wealth right from her message. she is in-decisive. there are  u that still care for her vs a new guy there. hard decision for her.

best can be said r, dont let go too early, but do let go when its tied up for too long.
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bro from what i know she dun have a new guy come out even chase her...tis i can comfirm...she said she 1 part time study, so cant handle..so be single no ned worry anything and no need to date
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sorry to say this bro

but the girl seems materialistic.. apparently your small business isnt enough for her... i think she shy is the show off type want tell everyone bf is businessmen with bigger shop la

coz ur business small ma only stall

sad but this could be it.. just continue making your business big...

maybe your girlfriend think she too pretty and deserve to marry a guy with proper shop business
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QUOTE(LiLFreaK @ Mar 2 2010, 04:44 PM)
sorry to say this bro

but the girl seems materialistic.. apparently your small business isnt enough for her... i think she shy is the show off type want tell everyone bf is businessmen with bigger shop la

coz ur business small ma only stall

sad but this could be it.. just continue making your business big...

maybe your girlfriend think she too pretty and deserve to marry a guy with proper shop business
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i own shop too...wholesale one.. but she not those show off type girls..haih..i duno how to said..but now she only said to me be frend..
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If a girl really love a man she dont care how small his business is as long 'The attitude towards her is right'
If she did mind she wont together with him first of all.
All this talk that she going to get a richer bf is after effect and maybe some excuse to make his heart die.

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QUOTE(beandy @ Mar 2 2010, 04:54 PM)
If a girl really love a man she dont care how small his business is as long 'The attitude towards her is right'
If she did mind she wont together with him first of all.
All this talk that she going to get a richer bf is after effect and maybe some excuse to make his heart die.
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all my aunt live at london they are resident there mostly run their own business..1 of my aunt just now call me said will i willing to go work there?? the 1st thing i response is hah!!! then i consider back, my aunt said her friend one to hired people to work at a modelling company at there..the job is (human resourse)management...and the salary she give me is rm 9k++....im not here to show off or what..my current profit is 1 month 5-6k...should i go?? my heart now got 70% want to go..and my business here will pass to my parents to watch out...my aunt said she will sign 1 year contract with me after that depends on me one to continue or not!! the reason is if i go there that means i cant get my ex back...just now i got speak with her on the phone but no inform her this news..and she said if she got bf oledy will i called everyday like now? i said no...then i ask back you got bf oledy? she said no just a example...she said she 1 to be single and concentrate her work and study will not think of relationship... so how i gonna do??


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I have aunts who live in London and run their own businesses. One of them called me just now and asked if I wanted to work there. My initial response was "HAH?!". Afterwards, I seriously considered it. My aunt says that a friend of hers is looking to hire people to work at a modelling agency there - human resources management. The salary is about RM9k++. I'm not here to brag about it, my current profit is RM5-6k a month. Should I go? I'm almost 70% positive that I want to go, and I could pass my business here to my parents to look after it. My aunt said that she would sign a year contract with me, and after that, it's up to me to decide if I want to continue with her.

However, if I go, I can't get my ex back. I spoke with her earlier but I didn't tell her about the news, and she asked if I would still call her every day even if she had new boyfriend. I said no, and asked if she had already found someone new. She said no, it was just an example. She said that she wants to stay single for now and concentrate on her work and studies and not think of being in a relationship.


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