That was 8 years relationship! Are you sure girls could easily take 8 years to tell whether suit or not? How many 8 years a girl have?

I could not forget her, frankly. I never sweet talk with other girls, for 8 years, I have only sweet talked her, and it just made me impossible to sweet talk any other girls.

congrats TS ... based on ur story i can c u r not a "yee sai zou" but sadly u r a "kwan kiok zhai" ... so if ur dad ask u to eat shit then u 100% eat la??? u r almost 30 n ur brain is rusted ... got a PhD but think like my 3 years old nephew ...

n frankly ur dad thinks he is rich n wealthy ... so ur gal tht stayed in a old double storey house is farking poor n not match with u izzit? since u r earning so much ... y u must force ur gf to do things ur way? since her income doesnt bother u , juz let her b wat she wanna b as long as she is happy n not tarnishing her n ur family ... if teaching music n earning less is pathetic ... i c ur dad n ur mind is more saddening ...

after so many years , no sex relationship = u r strong? i think u got problem izzit? n when she took the first step u reject n angry? wtf? it might not b a test but its bcoz she really thinks u r the 1 n wanted to go 1 step further ... or mayb after so many years , it is an important test , a test to c whether ur "didi" can function onot ...

n u r so busy u cant accompany her more , yet u can spend time browsing the internet n book facial appointment for her n post this with replies in LYN ....    biggest joke of the millennium liao

conclusion , idiot gets Phd , but onli follow chinaman dad's order , lastly blame gf not understanding enuf ... TS if i were u , go work as robot whr ur dad is the controller n wait ur dad to choose a gal he likes , then u marry her n get ur dad a grandson ... ur life will b easier but its not ur own life ... it's juz part of ur dad life since he's controlling it .... u wasted ur life ...

You should have been more loving and caring. The real reason you're angry is not because she thinks you're weak. It's because you know deep down she made you violate one of your Dad's rule. Kissing is a big no-no, huh ? What a joke, buddy.

Dad is highly regarded in my life! He is a successful person, and has his own way to teach. Mind you, while I was kid, my elder sister could go party till 10pm, while as a son, I have to study at home after dinner, and no watching TV is allowed. Now, if you think he is a chinaman type, you were totally wrong. He merely have high expectation on me.

During the six months while I was in MY after completing my PhD, dad was very happy to have a son that people call "Dr.", but in the office, he would tell different story. You study PhD, but you know nothing about business, you failed miserably! And within that six months, he challenged me to do a business project. After six month, I didn't do very well, and not too bad either. Not only he wanted me to be a better person, but he wanted me to stay occupied so as not to main-main with girls around.

You got to be kidding. Remain single for long? Dad has many businessman who know how good I am (at least at the first sight during company talks and events, and as a Dr.) that introduced me to their daughter. Yet, I love her dearly for I know she's my girl.

For instance, during the golf session, other businessman's sons bring together their partners as well. While their partners do well, I stand aside and taught her patiently, now look, how do I feel? So if this is not love that I try to improve her, what do you call then? 

There are so many things that put me in the shame compared to others' GF, and yet, I ignored and tried to improved her.

Dad is dad, he is rigid, I'm helpless to change him FOREVER, not even my mum.

So, I tried to improve my GF. There was nothing wrong to bring GF to join my activities with dad to show dad how good she is. I though things could go fine, but alas, it never worked.

I realize, at the bottom of my heart, she is tired and stressful. To avoid disappointment at my side, she kept things to herself, she never said she don't like swimming, golf and others, but just follow. So, on whether she likes me or not, she said YES, and we kissed like normal. She realized she did poorly at times and to make things worst, she never told me heart to heart.

Anyway, I'll try to avoid making myself to look like me the past. Rather than making myself look arrogant and smart in expensive suit and leather shoes, I'll dress like her brothers. And, diamonds and rose would be a no-no.

Stupid me, after 8 years, I never know which was her primary, secondary school and favourite places, I would have explored her childhood with her.

Rule is rule, and I'm in the least bit interested to do anything to change my rigid dad. However I could spin, he is a high profile person and a VIP in most occasion, and no matter how high I achieve, get a PhD, do a business project in his company, he would still think I know nothing.

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One week after getting back from UK, I suggested to tour Australia with my GF.

"You must listen your father." My mom said, in her usual soft tone.

"But, I want to go to Australia for long holidays!" I stressed.

"Listen, Winner, you must listen to your father!" she repeated.

"Alright, reason?"

"You should achieve something, your father wants to see results."

"I don't get it, I'm tired!"

"Tired? So tired that you can go as far as Australia with a girl?"

"I have never been to Australia! This is a joke, who has never been to Australia?"

"Winner, look, you must listen to your father!"

Mom became serious and continued.

"Your father is old, he should have retired."

She became emotional.

"This is not something I should tell, but listen, who is going to manage the business one day your father is not feeling well?" 

"Sorry" I went straight into my room.


debbieyss, Ice, rainbowemo and others, now you know why I have been a good "Kwan keok zai".

But, for personal life other than business, yes, I should talk to my father. I need a change!

Thanks everyone for your comment, advice and encouragement. I'm off to prepare for reconciliation. There is a way if there is will. I'm off to MY tomorrow, and come back to NZ this Friday, just in time before my busy schedule haunt me again next week. Till then. Good luck to you all too!

No, I'm fine. Just feel a bit tired to be a good BF, while being a good son.

Those of you who think that I'm working hard, and neglect relationship, just because I'm going to inherit my father business so that I could earn more to make the rich richer and poor poorer are absolutely wrong!

It's about being an obedient son. My father is getting old and sick, and I have always been thinking of making him less worried. So, I worked hard to achieve something.

Years overseas pursuing my education. If I were really money minded, do you think I have the courage to pull through till PhD?

Far be it from me to be a good BF, as well as an obedient son. True, I'm just a loser who have failed miserably at both. Father never satisfied with my achievement, while GF left.

No, I'm not self pity, don't get me wrong. But, at the age of 28, how many of us fail both.