And seek professional help if u may. No hesitation. The lifes is in ur hand. Work and act and dun think and think

From her hubby's situation, apparently soft approach doesn't work. To guide someone, to influence somone, has to be innovative and find a better way that works on the victim's personality.

Wasting time in plan A for many years doesn't work, it will only ruin his years to come, so does to herself and the baby.

soft approach doesnt work?? soft approach? what the hell? TRY some professional approach....get counselling. Has She tried that? No? then what soft approach?

I dont think you understand the meaning of marriage vows if your suggestion is for her to leave him.

Of course I know what's meaning of marriage vows.

Professional counseling is one way, yes she hasn't tried it. But if she doesn't try it then she may have to apply other way.

30 years old. Addicted to drugs since he's in early 20s. If accompany him day and night without doing anything just plain nagging can change him, I don't think he's still a drug addict now.

actually i dunno whr 2 find 4 a professional counseling b4 tis.. but just now got some forumer gv a wesite i'll try it out.... billion of TQ 4 u all who gv opinion....

divorce la.

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Easy solution.

Wat cna u do/

ever imagine one day he point the knife at your baby?
not gonna advise more. it's already 4pages of advises.. either u want to accept or not.
take care of yourself k..

I'm worried about ur baby man
these guys got no logic after taking drugs

consult u [private clinic doc...now they got medicine to make ppl not addicted to drug

Drug addiction can be removed.

But the trauma of knife?

Doesn't sound like reasoning is going to work. You need to jolt your relationship and reset it. Tell him how what he's doing is destroying your marriage. He's a bum, plain and simple. If he isn't going to change, then leave him. Go back to your parents for some time. If you and your marriage mean enough to him, he'll change and if not, you never meant that much to him anyway. He has to know what it feels like to lose You. Strong u must be to do this.

punishing is a way to teach and change a person

do u think mom/dad like to beat the children until they are so pain? but if not will they learn?

report police, send him to rehab and tell that you love him

just remind me last time of a gal that i know who reported his bf who involve in drugs. She's crying seeing her bf in lokap. She's very painful in heart, but if touching drugs, rehab is the way to go. She knew she did it right and so should you.

need weed or anythin ~ come find me ! i help him

got such medicine? can tell me more info?

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Added on November 7, 2009, 6:55 pmmy family is complicated.. mum staying wit step father since my dad pass away.. so i dun hv place 2 go.... i'll try 2 ask from da prof..

This post has been edited by kellyan: Nov 7 2009, 06:55 PM

Well say.

Somehow, love doesn't mean you can adopt hard approach. Throughout the progress, yes, it is painful to the victim and to you yourself, we have to see if the method works the matter.

Ask help from his parents? from ur parents?

This post has been edited by rosiereen: Nov 7 2009, 07:42 PM

Don't sell these things on internet in before I get komisen.

This post has been edited by POYOZER: Nov 7 2009, 07:45 PM

Bring him to know JESUS!!!

ONLY JESUS HEALS

Hi Kellyyan.

Do you have any relatives and close family that able to help you out of this problem? Try to talk to them. We are only be able to give you advise and opinion. The final decision is on your hand. You need to execute it.

Do you talk to your mother ? try to talk to your mother. I guess she have the responsibility to share your problem. Call her. This kind of thing can't be delayed any further.From my point of view,You seriously need to talk to your husband. If things doesn't work out. Please do the last step, report to police.

I know that you love your husband very much but this is the only way that can help him. I know right now you need help and care from friends, family to support you. Don't worry. You can share things out in here. Do you work currently ? How did you support your own self as your husband is jobless?

We all hope can help you out of this problem. God Bless.

I have met a drug addict that abuses his wife.

I know another drug addict that killed his own mum.

I am not trying to scare you here, but in order to protect yourself and the baby, stay with your parents for now.