that is not love. and love doesn't count whether a girl is pretty or not.

but love seriously doesn't count on looks

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Added on October 11, 2009, 3:37 pm

but love seriously doesn't count on looks

very true. I see this happening around me. You can sense the desire for attention in their eyes. But everytime they try and act cute, guys just shrug and look away - always the friend never the lover.

It's quite sad really.

While the hot girls are sick of all the attention they are getting to the point where they have a aversion to the average bloke that keeps on trying to talk/empathize/connect with her.

yea but in the end the not so attractive ones suits him. its always like that. seen so many cases.

i like this. tats why now i`m 42! n i`m stil alone

Very important.

I speak from experience that it is true.

If you cant take care of yourself...giving yourself shit everyday.. you will feel like shit....and talk like shit...and your social life would be shit.

its easy.... get a GOKU hairstyle... and BOOM, every girls (even some man) are attracted, lol...

to us they are tai yi longs. only lalas dig.

She wear sexy lingerie and watch TVB in the evenings while eating cookies, ice cream and char koay teow.

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Added on November 15, 2009, 3:46 pmA successful career Singaporean woman (or man for that matter) does not make for good wife (or husband material).

They have been fully and completely subordinated by an entire social system that places the work ethic before raising a family or building a real community.

Long working hours and a premium placed on work instead of family and community, along with the high price of housing and EDUCATION work together to naturally limit the birth rates of middle class, educated Singaporeans, who ironically believe the world about their own values system.

FML.
same case here,
after seeing POYOZER post

when we studying, no $$ go to clubbing
when we working, no girls to date..
or maybe get older looks.

now, i getting worried like cheesenium, as same age as him.
same shit.

This is by no means making TS envious or worry more. I'd just like to share a little bit of my 6-year long singlehood I had before it was finally over couple of months ago. I just hope that my search has ended there and then.

During my college years, I never even had the opportunity to choose a decent looking girl in my course as I was in a predominantly male IT course. So I had to resort to look for girls online. Talk about ICQ during that era. Friendster wasn't so popular then. So finally I found one but it was short-lived. Didn't last for more than 6 months due to some personal issues as well as parental objection that I was still a student and should concentrate on my studies and yada yada. Anyway, she wasn't the best I could find so I decided to keep my options open for fear that if I were to go steady with her, I would miss the good stuff that came along and wouldn't be able to change my mind that easily due to the commitment I would have made.

However, the good stuff did come along but most of them (if not all) were already taken and those who weren't taken were pretty vain and fussy pots. Talk about being b****y and slutty. During my 6-year long singlehood, I can say I did enjoy my freedom quite a great deal but could have done better. However, it would be much more ideal if I didn't have to wait that long before I could find the girl of my dreams. I have been working for 3 years plus and like what TS mentioned, most of the colleagues in the 3 companies (including my present one) I have worked at (men and women alike) are already either attached or married. What made me feel worse was, they are slightly older or around my age. That kinda made me regret for not seizing the opportunity during my tertiary years but then it wasn't so easy due to the intense competition in my campus. I didn't bother to compete with those pricks because I knew somehow I would lose out and be embarassed. Even if I did get a girl of my dreams back then, I knew I wouldn't be able to keep her for long anyway as I would need to deal with those bees who were around her. I saw a lot of breakup cases back in college so that kinda made me dread even more getting engaged in a relationship with those girls. And yeah, like what TS said, these gals would come crying to you asking you to be their listener and spare tyre so that they could get a rebound. So I tried my level best to comfort them and cheer them up but darn ,all I did  at the end of the day was reconcile them to their abusive and possessive jerky bfs. So ultimately, I felt like a sohai myself cuz little did I realise that they would only treat those guys who were willing to listen to them as mere FRIENDS and nothing more. You practically enter into the FRIENDSHIP zone when you lend those emotionally bruised girls your ear.

So finally I just had to resort to Friendster/Facebook to find the girl of my dreams and luckily I succeeded. I can foresee that more girls would start giving a damn about me now than before. Girls only come to you when you least expect and need them (probably they want you to regret your decision or some sh!t). But whenever you need them most, they distance themselves from you. This also explains why girls are somewhat attracted to attached/married men as espoused in one of the threads here. Talk about tried and tested goods. BF/Husband material. It is a bizzare society we are living in.

I hereby rest my case 

1) cos good girls are hard to find as well
2) cos they dare to kau
3) because they have the 5Cs
4) I wouldn't say looks are more important but like u said urself u also go for homey girls who are pretty mah.  so girls also want handsome guys loh.  Plus when u go out u usually notice good looking ppl. You don't notice the ordinary looking ppl. Thus u only remember things like "Oh that day I saw a few couples where the girls with handsome guys but the girls pay for themselves leh" but you didn't notice the 100 other couples who were also at the shopping mall only the guy has a pot belly and his girlfriend has pimples on the face.

ya i saw something like that happen b4... what the heck is going on in this world...

i'm 21 years and single since forever.

-cries- the world is changing. and im single too.since ferever =.=

For strangers, look is most important. Same applied to first impression.

The next step is different.

if u were given 2 choices of girls

one is with hawt body and nice face, but attitude is slutty, b****y, waste your money, demanding, only she say u kenot say

another one is with average look (but still presentable after makeup), not so magnificent body, shorter than you by 3 feet and more, but she got every nice qualities that many men dream of, such as helping you to save money, being independent as much as possible, sufficiently smart, and able to accept ur family members, and the like

which would you choose as wife?

the answer is obvious, its just that many of guys cannot accept the truth, that is god will never give u a perfect product, couples are meant to complement each other, a+b = 100%, if both also perfect, then add up would exceeding 100% which is abnormal.

btw, 80% girls look the same the moment they just wake up
lulz

At least it shows that a girl is wanted rather than unwanted. Kena screwed upside down is a lesser evil compared to having nobody want to take a glance at her.

Yes, NO to rape, molest, and incest. but yes to jual mahal-ness and playing hard to get.

To redracer2004,

You may want to read the below post from a SG forum to make yourself feel that you are not alone.

She's already 28 while you're only 24. Happy reading and cheers!

So you judge all Japanese girls based on porn stars? Fail, dude.