WEIGHT = 105KG
HEIGHT = 175 CM

I just feel that chicks will try to avoid FAT DUDE...
So any advice other than asking me to go on DIET, GYM, PILLS or LIPOSUCTION!!!

try go for fat chicks

My fren weight more than u but still able to get gf, and his gf is about 1/3 his weight.

So?

Know your standards la. Don't try to play in the 'A' League when you're a 'C' class.

No offence,just a piece of advice.

Looks to me u r unwilling to put effort in so theres 3 option i can think of for u

1) Give money too bomoh to help u with love charm

2) Give money to womens charity or any other if u cant find the former

3) Give money to the woman

Good Luck

Try to avoid the first one payback can be a bi*ch

If you cant commit to this,what advice would you want?Wait patiently till a girl drops from the sky and says you're her prince charming?

i suggest you hit the gym.

That would be a better option.

Stop being so superficial.

eat 2 meal a day

Since you don't seem to want to improve yourself, go find a fat girl

No effort = No rewards. Period

I used to be fatter than you.

Anyway, if you don't want to change, don't set your target too high.

Find someone that's around your weight range as well.

Cheers.

Im fat and I got a girlfriend, I don't even diet,gym, pills, liposuction, why should you?

Time to buff up mate...

And if you have someone in mind, use la that person to motivate you. When you wanna eat a midnight snack, look at her pic, then don't eat. When you gyming, think of her, push yourself more.

how about you ask someone to find a gf for u? maybe ur mom...

NO SACRIFICE....NO VICTOReeY!!

-The Witwicky motto-

go on a diet and hit the gym.

seriously.

in order for him to have her pic, he needs a girl or a girlfriend.

Problem now he doesn't have one. Prolly he could use some motivation.

Send him to Army camp or re-do NS again?

No excuses.

You know your problem, so fix it!

time for u to go find match-making agency

How do u slim down then?
Do you do that for girls?

1. Change your attitude. And a change in attitude would involve the things that you do not want to do.

Or else,

2. Take a very good care of your hygiene, your appearance. Be metrosexual if you can.

3. Have a very high sense of self confidence.

But then again, don't put high hope because physical/outer look does make an impression

yes physical outlook does play an important role.. when i got dumped... i lost nearly 20kg for tat in 6 months... just do it man... it makes a lot of difference... being bubbly is not the trend right now..

to TS,

if you see a 105kg fat chick.. you want to hit on her? or you respond will be "urghh... she's gonna suffocate me"

Now look at the mirror again.

got a picture?

ada ah wang ada ah moi..

go gym or gtfo.
no excuse

hmm.

i think 105kg is not a measurement of fat.

people can be heavy but have a big structure / body structure as well.
some are just big sized.

no doubt 105 kg is high, but if it does not show with very obvious love handles or signs of obesity, its entirely different.
therefore, i suggest,

PIC PLS.

and we can tell wehther u are fat or not.

ppl think i'm around 80kg but in fact, i'm 100kg. i'm around 178-180cm.

FAT NOT AN EXCUSE~~

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People are advising you to go for fat chicks but even fat chicks would avoid someone your size.

But TS titled his topic describing himself as fat + fail to get date. with such combo, its pretty much moving towards the "unappealing" fat than than "heavy but hunky". If its the latter, he wont have problem getting date/girls, right?

Do you doubt his own description/date-less fate as being inaccurate?

anything wrong with fat ppl ?????

still human right?????

my friend is Fxxxxxxg fat but have a pretty gf...becoz he is nice and good

if the girl dun wan be friend with u .....becoz of ur look or size...ask the girl to F off .......

just ask urself TS... would u wan to date a fat chick.. if u r then no need gym... if u wan to date someone slim.. do something to urself first... those fat ppl who got cun chicks.. their lucky... but not every fat dude is.. dun count on tat... face this cruel fact my fren

175cm/105kg is fat no matter how big boned you are.

His BMI is 34.

I have never seen a person with a BMI over 32 that does not look obese. Despite all it's shortfalls, the BMI system is logarithmic and as you go over 30, you start to look really really fat.

have you seen body builders then?

and notice their BMI?

eat FAT chicks lo... got pretty nt bad d.. lol... at least u dun have GF breast is flat issue...

ps: thats my issue..

LOL. You only focus on the 105kg in TS post and DIDN'T READ the rest of what he typed.

TS wrote:

I doubt he is a bodybuilder nor a gym-goer. Do you wish to doubt his statement above and insist he wrongly described himself as fat unless he posted his pic to be judged by us here?

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Aug 24 2009, 10:38 AM

I'm 171 with 95KG.

Damn it, you're insulting me!!

alan, i think u are focusing on his shortfalls.

i think being heavy is not a reason not being able to get a date.

if a person brings himself up well, success can happen.
from the way i see it,
TS is insecure about himself.

the only way to deal with it is to work something out since he can't stand his own physical attributes.

other than that, if being able to carry himself well, i don't think there is a problem.

Fat + Good/cute face = got chance.
Fat + Ugly face = you do the math..

Read TS post carefully.

He doesnt even go to the gym.

ur solution would be fat + money xp

I've said this before, that it isn't jus to do with your weight. If you are overweight, it could reflect attitude and have to do with your personality, in the eyes of not just women but people in particular. If you have weight issues and do not want to work towards rectifying them, one could conclude that you are lazy. Who would choose to go out with someone that is lazy even if he is good looking? If you do not see the need to do something about it, one could also conclude that you are stubborn, sloppy and undisciplined. Now this may all be untrue but like it or not, people do judge others on their appearance. I admire overweight people who take this to heart and work hard to lose their access weight. I know two such friend and although it wasn't easy, they prevailed. Heck on of them was even photographed for a men's magazine. Such was the amount of weight he lost. Being overweight also leads to health concerns.

Now I'm not here to take the piss but rather I'm here to point out how weight issues can sometimes reflect personality. None of the traits I mentioned above are positive ones. I'm not saying people who are overweight won't find women, but it's definitely harder especially if you don't have a personality to compensate. How do you compensate? By having a winning personality but like I said, it's hard for women to think you have one if you don't care much for your physical appearance.

Lol...so bad

No, don't do that for the girls. Do it for yourself. DUH.

If you're charming (attitude), then fat or not it's not a problem.
Make sure you smell nice, looks clean and dress up nicely.

Whether you able to slim down or not, that's entirely up to you to decide.
I got a friend which has a model-like gf, even though he's fat, he got all the
points mentioned above. Meaning he's a pleasant friend to have around.

no... just be yourself.... u need to have sense of humour... ^^... but u said ur fat + emo... for sure... no girls with talk to u or even mate with u... just be open minded maybe... jokes and try to improove ur oral comunication with any ppl .... im also trying lolz ^^ but im not fat....

This post has been edited by Reizz: Aug 24 2009, 01:50 PM

no need to go on DIET, GYM, PILLS or LIPOSUCTION!!!..just reduce your weight will do

quite funny sial.. Does size really matter??
i think u havent met the person yet.. go out and find.. obviously u will felt low self-esteem.. however think of it from the inner beauty side..

And one thing when u get ur gf.. pls be self-sufficient.. lol

I just get incredibly annoyed by people who know they have a weakness, but are too lazy to do anything about it, yet whine/complain when they don't get what they want.

hes asking for advice man... why dun u just give a nice 1 rather than flame him just like that? sporting abit ba

+1.

if u ugly face, lose weight liao, stil nobody want.

Then open thread

"fugly guy finding hard to get a date after losing weight"

Evan, long time no see

no use... these ppl memang love all this kind of topics.. they can come in and blast T.S.. actually they themselves also one of a kind.. taking ppl's thread to release their own anger and hatred..

maybe ^^"

my advice..just go for your level only..dont dream for higher class except you've "ayat power" or money power...

TS problem is not a problem at all, or a problem which he self induced. He might has been rejected all too often by girls half his weight, hence come to conclusion girls dun like him coz he's fat.

He should've be FAIR first and try hit on girls weighing at least 2/3 of his weight (70kg++) , and im sure he wont have problem finding a partner/date/soulmate.

If ONLY he willing to do that.

Very very rare occasion guys will hit a 70kg++ lady.... I am not trying to put some flame on fat girls (yea...I am straight....hate me ...coz i dont know any betterr words for a girl who is up to 70kgs.....its hard to achieve and yet fat girls achieved that weight succesfully)

you see, the point...No matter how a guy looks like or how high/low a guy's standard is.... Guys tend to look for a thin girl.... a fit one indeed....I bet it's the 1st requirement for a guy to look at a girl.... Maybe because fat ones are more emotional and have weird smells.... You see....the thing is....

Everyone are given a body to take care of... You can make it look fit/ fat (although u cant really make it longer or taller...maybe to some extends....ot u cant make your bone bigger....only if your father or mother is an european or has big bones) Everyone is given a body of a shape....started from thin, weak, tiny ones.....you are free to design it best fitted to the trends....Since the trends for last 200-300 years preferred an ahtele build ones....then let's go and design one for yourself...

A 70 ++ kgs girl has the rights to do this as well.... It all DEPENDS whether they choose a life of running in the park 3 days a week or sitting infront of their pc holding KFC and McD playing online games....

"Now, I say to you today my friends, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: - 'We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.'"


Speech at Civil Rights March on Washington, August 28, 1963

Martin Luther King Jr.

Although the quote concerned about civil rights....but I am trying to highlight the last sentence Martin uses in his quote... Everyone are created equal.

This post has been edited by liez: Aug 24 2009, 02:55 PM

Brother and Sister in Lyn,

Thank you so much for your advice. I am REALLY FAT with a BIG STOMACH so i feel i will insult everyone if i were to post up the picture of my body.

Anyway, i have tried to hit on FAT chicks who is above 70KG and turns out to be the same story and they also try to avoid me.

I use to go to gym when i was young and now the muscle turn to FAT already so is really bad.

The problem statement here is FAT CHICKS will avoide FAT DUDE..

So the only solution for FAT GUYS like me with Ugly looking face is to slim down still go for FAT CHICKS....

I dont mind dating FAT CHICKS is just that they dont even want to give me a chance to further the relationship and always hint me indirectly and it sounded like "LOOK FOR SOMEONE YOUR OWN SIZE" or "FATASS PLEASE LOOK INTO THE MIRROR" or "WE ARE NOT THE SAME CATEGORY" or "f*** OFF AND DONT COME NEAR ME".

This is how i feel although they dont said it out loud...

Anyway, i am the type who like really FAT CHICKS or really SLIM CHICKS (BONY TYPE). Since slim one is totally out of reach i guess i am going after FAT ones.. but still same result.

So i guess the answer for me is to go do my GYM really slim down.

some of you were asking about my diet... i only eat 2 meals a day and is a decent portion so is not the food that make me fat... the problem is that both my parents are really fat cause they are genetically that way. Same goes to all my sibilings.

I also dont blame my mom and dad for this as i guess i need to really put in extra effort to look into going GYM and taking diet pills or slimming tea....

Anyway, feel free to give your opinion on the PROBLEM STATEMENT which is FAT CHICKS will avoide FAT DUDE as well!!!

Thank you to everyone who contributed. I am sorry if i happen to insult some fat dude in LYN by this post but i just need to express what i feel.

Thank you all.

Inb4don'tfeedthetroll

And

Yes, this is win.

read my previous posting just above what you have posted... then you will understand...

http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1140632

damn... why does everyone seem to hate fat people???

they are human too you know.

Question: Since you did go to the gym when you were younger, why the 'DON'T ADVISE ME TO GO TO GYM?' statement in your original post?

Since you were an ex-gym goer you would know the advantages of going to the gym and all. The initial statements you made in your first post made most people think you didn't want to work to improve yourself see?

The need to have a girl is a potent motivator for change dont you agree?

Go to Health & Fitness section or Bodybuilding section, there are tons of articles there.

No, I don't do it for girls. I have girls whether I'm thin or fat.

Being healthy and pleasant looking shouldn't be just about the girls. Everybody around you will have a different point of view of you when you're healthy, and that includes your boss, your colleagues, your friends and family. It opens up a whole range of possibilities in your life to explore.

You don't feel lack of energy all the time hence you're able to spend more time doing what you want.

You exudes confidence to people around you, and confidence is a major plus point to most people.

For me, I loss around 15kgs in 6 months time, there are some really geng people in H&F that lost 20kgs in 3 mths, so everything is possible.

As long as you make the first step.

P.S. When I was grossly overweight, I already had casual partners 1/3 of my weight range.

This post has been edited by Gr3yL3gion: Aug 24 2009, 03:41 PM

As others have said, being fat still can get partners.. even hot ones. THose who are grossly fat can choose to remain so.. but at least try to ensure they have a "pleasant" neat look, posture, confidence to make up for it.

I've gone through my life being fat (lazy ass) , being pimpled ridden (stupid itchy hands) and to top it all off....... poor oral hygiene . But I changed that slowly year by year. For those who go for dentist there's a tiny card with a little table behind listing down appointments done. I nearly got that card fill up in a years time (after 10++ freaking years NEVER visit a private dentist once )

You can't believe how damn hot I am now . Even my other half said if I look like this when I was in college n years ago... she won't have a chance at all LOL. What's missing in my life now is a "healthy" bank account.

Everybody can look good. you live only once. if there's still time... just get the ass moving at least for health's sake.

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Aug 24 2009, 03:30 PM

fail bro....Whether you are working with colleagues or studying in a college....Avoid following a group to eat together dutinf lunch hour...2 meals a day??? I wonder how you are going to grow more by eating that amount....

Listen here.... There is a European noble saying....when he first landed in Asia.... he saw the individuals in Asia is just the same size as the Europeans.... Only after the europeans getting richer and richer.....THey are more conservative to their nutritions and so on....Only by generations to generations....their bones become bigger and and fitter.....

While Asia became poorer, they take any foods available or made available to them....majority of it are poor-nutritious foods.... Their size didn't shrink....But neither do they grow....I am trying to mark the point that....YOU can go against how your parent's gen work on you. You can be the one who set new gens to your children next time....

2 meals a day isn't enough at all for nutritions.... You take at least 6-7 meals a day.... And stop thinking ....yes...even thinking isn't healthy.....about crackers, biscuits, white breads, popiah skin, wedges, cheezy wedges and anything fried (yea....if u r from KL...at least 80% of the foods here are cooked with oil....) try avoid white rice if psosible....u r gonna get yourself into hell but it just worth it....

do this:-

monday, wednesday, friday- slow run in park for 8-12 kilometres
Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday (choose either upper body part or lower body part work oput set to do) - Some essentials work out included body crunches (dont do sit up its gonna hurt yopur lower back), squats, dead lift...

you can do it for 9 weeks....you can start thinking about thin hot chicks.....

dun so so chim de word la~~~

dude.. i freaking dun agree fat guy = fat girl.. really depends on ppl.. u think every girls out there only judge by appearance? hell no way.. your problem like others said is not a problem, it just self-induced.. the only problem u have is u havent met the right person.. u need know more ppl.. whether frens or potential gf.. then u will know that after all u wont rejected by the other sex..

Take time know more ppl.. if u doesnt wan to be fat then do something about from now.. whether u gonna sweat it out or pay money for it. But if u do it this way, its not u yourself anymore.. think twice..

Finally, some sense on this thread.

easy.. dont post about it here la bro.. go and GET a girl.

Well, I dated a 90kg guy when I was 45kg.

begin nice will do,talk ofen and be yourself >U<

no offence ur status there wrote your a male..

but if ur a female using a male's acc lol.. then why u actually dated a bigger size partner? coz they are funny? friendly? they have their own characteristics? not faggotish? like "oh no.. i m not goin to eat that, its fattening.. oh no i need takecare of my muscles.. my packs???..." sickening..

i find bigger size ppl are the most down to earth ppl.. they dun care about appearance.. they dun stereotype ppl..

This post has been edited by mugenz: Aug 24 2009, 04:28 PM

Hi, I'm 90 liao.

well.. be confident, have a good walking posture (trust me it helps), upgrade ur facial appearance (style up ur hair, make urself clean), and the way u dress. make sure it conceals ur weaknesses and accentuates ur best features.

And of coz... ur personality must stand out.

cute dog..

how to conceal when ur really big sized.. if ur moderate then can still conceal.. i also wanna know wat is acceptable..

there's always a way. trust me! i know many plus-sized girls who know how to dress up so beautifully according to their size.

wear buttoned shirt.. look smarter that way..try to find clothes that hav vertical lines instead of horizontal..

but then the most curious thing is izzit really that bad as wat TS described girls will just run away from him just because his size.. hmmm girls.. any comment?

we need his pictures to determine his somasotype.

hahahahaa.. well.. no matter wat self determination and esteem is very important... if he looks okie but lack of these qualities, still wont get chicks..

Fix it instead of whining here, u know ur problem, u have the solution, but u still ask?

what's the point?

be who you are. be genuine and sincere. know your limits.

lazy bum like u dun deserve any girls...

now GTFO....

hahahaha... just an advise b4 comment on others..

"PLEASE DO BELIEVE IN KARMA"

I'm a firm believer that women doesn't necessary look into what you have, but more towards what you're trying to achieve in your life.

Like it or not, guys are always competitive and it's always in our best interest to improve in every aspect of our life. It's part of our evolutionary instinct even though we're moving on from our hunter gatherer ancestors.

Females still have those lingering primitive instinct as well, thus a hawt beefcake is still irresistible.

This post has been edited by Gr3yL3gion: Aug 24 2009, 05:32 PM

You really need to learn how to look at problems to find the cause. If girls of all types are avoiding you, why are you blaming it on your looks? Don't you think you are perhaps lacking something else that's pushing them away?

As many people have mentioned, there are some fat people with hot partners. How can these ppl get partners like that while you can't even approach a woman? There's something missing/wrong with you, and its not the weight. Find out what it is.


Its a good start, but like clutches for a broken leg, it only helps you move around more freely, after a while you'll have to throw those clutches away and stand on your own. You should always start changes from within, women can be the catalyst, but they should never be the reason for the change.

mayb not all hope are lost...

look at this thread and hope u get motivated abit...

http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1094689&hl=

p/s: u fatter or that dude in the picture fatter??

I'm 95kg. Just 10kg's short of you but nonetheless i CAN be considered fat. But still i don't find any problems hitting it with women. Looks is not really something women dwell upon but it can be an added advantage for attraction. Then again your personality is the biggest tool. Tell me then how really FAT guys like Fat Joe, Notorious B.I.G or even John Candy are well off with the opposite sex ? It's the confidence and social value they project.

Unless if you think it's BS then you can dwell in your own self-pity.

Problem : Fat dude hard to find date
Solution : work out

i don understand what is going tru ur head when they are sooo many gym opening around.

Guys and Girls,

Really thank you all so much giving me positive as well as negative comments. All to all the solution is to slim down and that is all. No point for me to keep whining here since is not going anywhere.

1. Get myself a decent pair of jogging shoe
2. Sign up for a gym nearby my house
3. Cut down on Carbo intake
4. Live a healthy life and make a difference with my life

Thank you all again!

Regards,
MajorArmstrong

EDIT:Well I guess i posted to late. Anyways congratulations to TS for finally deciding to build your own path to a healthier lifestyle. And i i bid you good luck.

This post has been edited by siles1991: Aug 24 2009, 09:17 PM

If you're filthy rich, you're not gonna have any problems

It's not really that hard , it depends on where you look for girls

no advice

Please be consistent!!! out of 100 individuals go for a work out programme, 50% quit in 2nd week and another 30% quit in 2nd month....another 10% cut down their programme or replace with easier ones....Only 10% leftover suceed their whole programme....please don't stop.

Cutting down carbo is really something easy to say but nothing will be harder to cut down carbs....it's one of the hardest thing to achieve in the world.... You succesfully cut down unhealthy carb (i.e: saturated fats and biscuits) for 3 months...man...i will give you a respect.... It proves that you are discipline....you are someone who amde mistakes but force yourself the hardest to correct it.

All the best friend...Remember...Body crunches, squat and dead lift is a must! Don't ever think of body crunch for 30-50 times for every lower body work out....DO it 200 times per work out without hurting your lower back!

just be yourself..

previously i have ex's bf that weight like yours n i am like 1/4 of his weight...