QUOTE(C-Note @ Aug 29 2009, 04:13 PM)
what makes the charges so special? how exactly does reaction between matter and anti occur?
Well let's talk in conserved quantities here then.
[Assumption: We work in the centre of mass frame, assume that the source of energy has no spin (related to angular momentum) whatsoever, and no charge]
When matter/antimatter is produced, what we have initially is a shitload of energy packed into a small place, which then manifests itself as a particle antiparticle pair. We know charge is conserved, so if one of the particles has charge, then other particle must have opposite charge. Also, we know momentum is conserved, so they both must have opposing momentum. Also, angular momentum is conserved, so if one particle has some spin, the other must have the opposite spin [Note: quantum spin, not classical spin, they're very very different creatures]
How does the reaction occur? Well, it's a quantum process, which almost automatically makes it very weird. Basically it goes through an intermediatary particle, be it a virtual photon (which interestingly enough, has some 'mass'), or some other particles, which are restricted only by the conservation laws I was describing above. Here's the interesting twist: It goes through all these possible pathways, and not only one of them, weighted by the probability of each possible pathway.