@lunar sea:
i thought you are already married?

Just attract her as a man and potential lover/partner first.

I presume that you still intend to be a father to your child despite your divorce because you're not the typical weak dickless Chinese male who runs away from everything and fights for nothing.

So in that case the fact of your fatherhood is not negotiable anyway. She can do it your way or she can take the highway.

what does carrying touch means ar?

so after applying THE FIVE, do you feel that she rikes you?

Don't worry, if she's serious she will start finding out things about you.

It depends on the girl la. If it's casual why bother revealing every detail about your life to her if she doesn't ask? Even golf and drinking buddies don't do that for each other.

hmm ...

keep going out for dates?

eh so if divorce go through. what gonna happen to your kid?

ya. gud question.

@lunar sea:
do u rike her? wanna marry her? wanna start family with her?

or just enjoy the companionship for now, and in the mean time, try to find out if you really rike her, and will love her, etc.

i bet she will feel u cheated on her!!! yes u dont have gf but u were married!

later when she finds out, goodbye to u.

filling means not yet divorce.

married man... he must be 30+ years old already.

unless he is very handsome and got characteristic that attracted her, if not just normal friend.

if you like her, got some feelings for her.

then keep doing THE FIVE.

u happy, she happy, right?

haha. it depends la. lambat laun orang pun tau punye!

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Added on September 30, 2009, 5:07 pm

later on u also will tell her wat?

or u wait untill she is urs onli u tell her?

if she can accept and family accpet, congrats to u.

What do you talk about on your dates? Are you at the stage when you're sharing intimate details of your life?

If you are, and you purposely leave out the fact that you're married with children and going through a divorce, you're being dishonest with her. Dishonesty doesn't just mean lying, it also means not telling the truth.

At some point, you'll have to tell her. And it has to be you that tells her. If she finds out from somewhere else, she may feel that you've been lying to her. And she'll probably be right.

anyway, hope u success. 

Are you insane? Why do you call yourself an ex-con? Did you cheat people's money or lie to them to manipulate them? If you did, then go diving in Sungai Rajang.

There's nothing wrong with your current status as long as you're not behaving like a worm.

You're fresh out of a ridiculously insane relationship, you're busy settling a divorce, you have a child's future to take care of, you have work responsibilities, you have a lot of things to handle at the same time.

After you've handled all of this you would probably look back on these trying times with pride. But for now, it is okay to take things a day at a time.

If you want the relationship to be casual then keep it casual and make that known. Indicate it to her in some form or way.

Whoa....thumbs up for this post .  Sadly, some guys just don't know how to test the waters first.