this thread should be stickied. And since there are so many threads regarding "Fat people can't get love", I would really suggest them to read this thread. This is a more direct way of "getting the person you want to be with".

I have an input for point 5 (ask her out)
What is the importance of the first date? The answer is to have a second date. If you screw up your first interview, you think your potential employer would give you a second chance? And my idea of a great first date is about giving her a great first impression. A simple formula for it would be confident, humorous, a great listener, dress-up for the occasion, and also to show interest in your partner.

Many have thought they are scoring great with the points i've mentioned, but failed on the final point, about showing interest in your partner. We've been taught that to make people to like you, you tell them stories about yourself, your achievements, your sky-high ambitions, you tried to impress them. But to your partner, you're just boasting yourself. She'll be thinking, "this guy only loves himself, he's not even interest in me". So don't make her feel that way, you do so by asking about her, you want to know her, you be a great listener. One simple fact about human, we want to be important, and we want people to know that we're important. We talk about ourselves to be important. So it's an important lesson to know when to shut up.

So what to talk about when you're dating? she's not interested how much you know about rocket science. Ladies LOVES gossips, they LOVE romance. If you think knowing about paris hilton's latest gossip is a waste of time then you should start to read hollywood entertainments even more so. Even if you give comments, only say how you "feel" about something. Coz they only feel, and you would want to speak their language.

After your first date, don't rush to make a second date. If you think she's good, wait for 2 days and then phone her up, telling her that you enjoyed it, and hope to see her again. After several days or weeks, then only make another date. If she says ok for a second date, you know, it's like a second interview. you just know you're gonna hammer it. Good luck.