she refused ahaha

Means you did it laa. But if you got good responses to 1-4, can always ask again.

Why isn't this pinned again?

bump for the awesomeness of this thread!

seems like taikor already...ahahahah
master of all trades...aghaga

Well i pretty much did all the things that n00b13 mentioned.. of course with the addition of knowing where you stand in her mind. That being said, I applied the very basic rule of going out on a date, is to let her know that you are interested and you like her.

I think it is imperative that you let her know that you are interested and would like to date her. If she declines to go on a date with you, you know that you shouldn't wait anymore and move on to another girl who is willing to go on a date with you. By doing so, you know where you stand and you won't have that feeling of not knowing whether she shares the same sentiment. And also reduce your own agony of waiting to confess to her and worry that how she would react.

Before you ask the girl out on a date, let her know the very reason you are asking her out - is that you like her and you are really interested. Most girls would react differently if you tell her that you like her, but here are the 2 most common reactions in their mind.
a) "Crap, what have I got myself into?? Now he wants me to be his gf? Dream on!"
b) "oh my god, he likes me too! Yey!"
If the reaction is the latter, congratulations you just got yourself a date. And to most girls, they'd appreciate the honesty, instead of hovering around trying to guess each other's feeling. If her reaction is on the other end of the spectrum, move on ! She is not that interested.

Telling the girl you're interested in does not mean that you want to start a relationship right now and right then. It is a very nice sentiment that you share with the girl that you would like to take her out and sweep her off her feet. You only start a relationship with someone after you've had couple of dates together. Going out on dates to know each other better, communicate and find out what each other like, and being comfortable with each other. Then only you decide if you really want to have that relationship that you've been longing to have.

Just my $0.02.

sara, i like your tie shoe siggy.. but your..
"It's better to lose your pride for someone you love, rather than lose that someone you love with your useless pride."
not applicable for all age la..

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Added on July 15, 2011, 2:35 pmagreed, but not applicable to all..

This post has been edited by samsoong: Jul 15 2011, 02:35 PM

How is it not applicable?

stumbled on this post. very2 good one

i agree confessions are for losers. i find it more fun n effective to just make the girl suspect u like her, teasing her like that to make her wonder about u. be nice but dont contact too much. help her out once in a while but not all the time. compliment the small things about her. blablabla. bonus points if the girl is the one who confess to u 1st

but apparently some guys have the mindset 'spend a lot of money on her so she will like me'. some even act as her slave for her attention, or just so he can have some time with her. pathetic +_+

more ppl should read this thread!

I have a crush on a girl. Basically I have done all the 5 ways that mentioned in this thread before I read this.

I went out with her for for 3 times in total for the past 2 weeks. We do message on and off. We met in work place and chit chat. I bought her coffee and she seemed quite happy.

But I am confused because I sometimes had a hard time in inviting her out. She would said she went out with friends and cant go out with me. I believed she did not cheat me because I did see her going out with friends.

But the thing is I have been asking her out during weekend, but she said not sure whether free or not. My thinking is that, if some one asks me out and I am interested, I will agree with it and if other friends ask me out on that day, I will just said I am not free during that day to my friend. But the situation is different because I feel that I am not the priority for her.

But the result was that we did go out, but only for a short 2 hours time because she is meeting friends at 3pm.

On the other hands, everytime i went out with her. I feel that it is actually not bad at all.

So I am not sure what is she thinking... May be she just take that as a normal lunch/dinner with ordinary friends. That's why I am not the priority to her.

Ask her out for a romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant.

If she keeps dithering, ask her again and again. If she says she's free in the afternoon, insist on the dinner.

Make it clear what your intentions are towards her.

very interesting article. how bout girls approach boys?

Nice info ..thanks TS.

No worries, the author is most likely bi so it applies to boys too~! Proof

i still remember my fren did all this n after he get serious with the girl ( bring back home n whatsnot) slowly they broke up. n my fren confess to me he got dump. u guys must be wondering why rite? well , they could be only one answer to why the girl are no longer interested ( it doesn't matter if u have such handsome face, tall figure and amazing stats on watever a Bachelor supposed to have).

well, u all know why? Here. The girl confess to me n its coz of this:

bookmarked.!!11

Lol, i wonder if the guy that tried to woo me last year read this because the steps are eeriely familiar.. and he failed at step 1. Just so u guys know, if step 1 fails, lay low on the other method. If she's not ready to respond to ur eye contact, there are high chances she won't be ready with the rest.

+1 Totally.

Yeah pin this up mod. Easier to find lol.