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SUSDickson Poon
post Jul 26 2009, 04:51 AM

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QUOTE(RUI @ Jul 26 2009, 03:55 AM)
everybody talking about confidence...den where d hell dis confidence comes from???

it must b from some qualities u already hv...

just for those who find themselves having less of these qualities...it's time to buck up and improve...get more skill or watever shit...
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I didn't get real confidence until there came points in time where I was tested to my limits. And I'm not just talking about getting grades or winning first place kind of thing or army bootcamps where you stay awake for three days. I'm talking about situations where if you lose, you DIE, or a person you care about DIES.

This put a LOT of things into perspective. For all my faults and flaws, no matter how "uncool" I was and all the horrible pratfalls I've made in life... I realised I had inherent worth because I stood up and took action where few people would or could, and the times I did so really did mean something.

There isn't one defining quality of worthiness. Being human means being a part of this diversity of human experience, desire and ability. I believe that everybody has a part to play (even though most of the time in my posts I sound like a lunatic "ultra") in this world, and that every life is worth something.

I wouldn't go so far as to suggest what the world could be like if every person on earth truly believed in themselves and their manifest destiny. I would only suggest that perhaps an individual who gives him or herself a real chance in this regard would truly see his/her quality of life improving significantly.


Added on July 26, 2009, 4:55 am
QUOTE(Cheesenium @ Jul 26 2009, 12:45 AM)
Blah blah blah,you just like to make things so complex.

You have no definition of thriving.So,is a good student considered as thriving? Or a man who just started his business and doing well? What happens if one arent a good student or doing badly in his business? They dont deserve to have someone and deserve to die alone?

Besides,a person who is not thriving now,doesnt mean that that person will not thrive in the future.On the other hand,a person who is thriving now doesnt mean he will still thrive 10 years from now.Things change with time and shit happens.

So,now,i have to think am i thriving? Am i 5 cm shorter than the girl i like?

Why bother to make life so complicated? If life is so complicated,i might as well dig a hole and bury myself then.

Your threads never helped anyone and you never have the intention to help anyone.You are just trying to belittle people with lower confidence.Make them feel like shit.Make them overanalyse a situation and screw their lives.You never talk about be yourself and just plaigarise other forumer's idea because their ideas arent so bitter to swallow.

In the end,you are just a guy who sits behind a computer and think out all these "theories".Just a keyboard warrior.Thats why you never want to reveal your love life,because you dont have one and always worry about this and that.
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Well, Ezra admitted himself that writing all of this is just a personal hobby for him. He probably intends to make money from this.

If I were to criticise or give feedback to somebody I would rather do so for a person that really gives a damn about who his writings are meant for.

Which is why I'm no longer saying a single significant thing in any of his posts or threads now.

This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Jul 26 2009, 04:55 AM
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post Jul 27 2009, 02:40 PM

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QUOTE(mumeichan @ Jul 27 2009, 10:31 AM)
You may think you are worth the heavens but that's is just your personal opinion about yourself. That opinion doesn't carry much weight when it comes to interpersonal relationships. When there is interaction between between people, each person wishes to derive something from that interaction. Whatever it may be, a person will present his self in a way he thinks would achieve the desired effect on the other party, thus getting him what he wants.

So even if you think you have some inherant worth for doing something  when others don't, it would not mean much if the person you're dealing with thinks you're a complete idiot for making such an action.
You are absolutely correct. This is my personal opinion about myself. Meaning that other people's judgements have stopped influencing my perception of self.

Wooo, so somebody thinks that I'm an idiot. So what? Plenty of other people think that I'm alright, and I have friends. This is the key. So what? There are other judgements of worth apart from what other people think and what I intend to derive from an interaction, because I CHOOSE my interactions and the people I interact with. So in the end I really don't care. biggrin.gif

This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Jul 27 2009, 02:42 PM
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post Jul 27 2009, 03:34 PM

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QUOTE(spanker @ Jul 27 2009, 03:20 PM)
I have plenty of friends whom are idiots. Sometimes it's fun to act like an idiot, being a genius is a huge drain on my emotional well being. Dickson Poon Tang, will you be my fwen?
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I think I certainly qualify. rclxub.gif
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post Jul 27 2009, 11:50 PM

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QUOTE(mumeichan @ Jul 27 2009, 03:44 PM)
If you really live life with a 'so what?' and 'I don't care attitude', I expect the real life you to be someone who doesn't have many friends, gets into problems easily and won't go far in anything that you do. Even if you are some grand person like Bill Gate, some Russian Oligarch or some Arab King, you can't CHOOSE who you interact with all the time. Occasions where you meet someone new or you have do deal with someone you don't naturally get along with will arise. Even your close friends wont be the exact same person everyday. Their mood changes and events occurs where we always have to think before we talk and say, where we step out of our comfort zone to please others. I'm amazed people can live with a me, myself and I attitude believing that if he think he's ok, the world will revolve smoothly around him.
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I'm stunned into silence, so my thanks to Noob13 and Iambored for saying something.
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post Jul 28 2009, 06:58 PM

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QUOTE(mumeichan @ Jul 28 2009, 06:39 PM)
Dickson's reply certainly resonated with the-world-revolves-around-me attitude. I never said we should spent out life worrying about what people think about you. I think that we need to give a considerable amount of thought about what people think about us when we communicate with others, to achieve our desired gain from that interaction.
In light of you intention to make CC a better place, refrain from posting useless lines if you have nothing to say in response to what I wrote. Or, If you can't understand the point I am trying to make, I'm sorry that you have a difficulty understanding English.
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Yes, and that's the point. It sounded like that to YOU.

You've taken what I've said to run off on a WILD tangent with it, with hypothetical "what ifs" and "must be"s while entirely ignoring the context of the discussion:

The perception of the self BY the same person as it relates to SELF-WORTH.

Something I said must have truly hit a raw nerve with you. I suggest that you calm down and chill instead of letting your PMS run amok.
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post Jul 29 2009, 01:45 AM

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Look who's talking!
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post Jul 29 2009, 02:06 AM

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Rofl, whatever. I do not define myself as a level 9 thousand plus "troll lord".

I can stop posting here anytime or go out to play, but for you, not remaining a virgin will be significantly harder.
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post Jul 29 2009, 05:20 PM

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^ Hey at least you are able to write walls of texts, instead of single line posts, about 10k of them, and neither do you define yourself as a "troll lord lvl 9999", LMAO!

I'll bet you've already kissed a girl and known what breasts feel like too.

Which is probably more than can be said for Kopitiam Elder Troll Lords. ROFL!


Added on July 29, 2009, 7:30 pm
QUOTE(mumeichan @ Jul 28 2009, 07:09 PM)
Whether what you said hit a nerve on me, whether I have PMS and whether my emotions are raging or not doesn't change the point I made and the content of what I wrote.

It is true your post sounded to ME as you were advocating a me, myself and I attitude. So I responded to it the way I read it.
If you think that they way I read it wasn't the way you intended it to mean, you could have easily quoted me and explained calmly how I got it wrong.
Of course, not everytime everyone understands what you say they way you want them to the first time you say it. There is no limit to the number of replies you can post in this thread, so please use this liberty to patiently explain your points instead of merely accusing people of being incapable of understanding you and telling them they have PMS.

Let me give you an example of a good response
See, noob13 explained to me that I have misunderstood your post and told me why. That at least gives me a chance to explain why I posted what I did.
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You don't deserve a good or polite response.

You could have told me how you read my post and asked me if that was indeed what I meant, but you instead chose to extrapolate my words entirely out of context and even out of this galaxy. rclxub.gif

You attempted to paint me as some sort of Manichean dragon you could personally slay in order to destroy my arguments, and you have been consistent with using this same tactic on me even while forgiving other people of far unworthier and truly ugly points of views.

Then you chose to make a big deal out of me saying that *I* was stunned into silence.

Did I hit a raw nerve, Mumeichan?

You do not deserve politeness. You deserve only my contempt, and your being called out as a moral hypocrite and a devious argumentator.

This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Jul 29 2009, 07:30 PM
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post Jul 31 2009, 03:53 PM

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QUOTE(Anni @ Jul 31 2009, 08:36 AM)
TS, click on your profile and check out the pic on the far right . My first thought on your guide was an article listed in msn that you copied and pasted.

I have no doubt on your method. But changing and maintaining the healthy state may need a lil bit of determination.

I am a stutterer and it is so pain in the ass when it comes to speaking. Especially English sad.gif
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Difficulties should be counted as a blessing.

It gives us something to achieve and it blesses us with wisdom and a better understanding of the human condition. smile.gif

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