Thanks for the feedback!
Just a simple clarification: this article is not about Love per se.

Love blossoms when it blossoms. Fate? Destiny?

This article is about how to make girls want to interact with you....giving you more OPPORTUNITIES to fall in love. It guarantees nothing, and is simply a rough guide to getting more of the right type of interaction with girls.

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 27 2009, 10:46 AM

whateverlaa...

You're right. I shouldnt really give a shit what ppl say about my writings.

Regarding the self worth thingy, yeah, I made a slip on that one occasion...but i still stand by what i say: self worth naturally develops when a person is thriving physically/mentally and emotionally.

I really meant that you were non-sequitur. Especially with the quotes you gave. I replied every single one. Anyway getting lazy to argue lah.

cya on fb ;-)




To other readers:

Define "self worth" whatever damn way it makes you happy. It doesnt matter. I dont care.

To me, a young man, self worth develops naturally from physical, emotional and mental health. And that is the context I am using the term.



The article stands. You can say what you like about how it hurts your fragile egos and go to whatever lengths to try and discredit it and feel better about yourself. I dont give a shit anymore. I've tried my best to make it as POSITIVE and a least insulting/belittling/negative as possible. I dont think i can do that any further.



The game of love is cruel. THere will be winners. There will be losers.


What I wrote is basically what I feel the winners have.


You may think differently, and you may use whatever rare examples (eg. the shy obese, lonely, isolated nerd who has a hot gf) to give you hope and to feel good about yourself. It will not change reality as I PERSONALLY perceive it. If you perceive reality to be different, then you are entitled to your views. Do start another thread or something.

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 27 2009, 02:40 PM

same here dude. At the end of the day, with a good social life and emotional wellbeing, you dont really care about what people say in forums such as this about you.

mind her... i think she snapped as it may have hit a nerve.

Damn you're sadistic.

What's there to be happy about?

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Added on July 28, 2009, 3:20 pmi was thinking like perhaps her ex had a similar attitude.


In reality i believe that there is nothing wrong with being self-confident, so long as you are not deluded.


ie. The mental sociopath who doesnt give a sh1t about everyone else is different from the thriving individual with lots of friends. The latter has people who look up to him and WANT to be his friend. Thus he chooses who he WANTS to hang out with... and chooses who he get's to know well. He has the social life and emotional support to be able to not really care about what some people think about him. (you know like how some people get really hurt when you bring up certain attributes they allegedly have)

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 28 2009, 03:20 PM

I mention things point blank as i see it. I dont know how the hell you could interpret bland text as "triumphant"... If i were talking/speaking with expression, then maybe it's possible to say so from my tone of voice and body language... but this if fvcking text we're talking about...

and btw, "triumphant" isnt the word you're looking for (there we go, another "smirk" for you)


Whateverla

";" + ")" also you can interpret as a "smirk".

defying emoticon convention to suit your twisted interpretation of things.

Dunno what to say liao.



I wonder what you'll interpret ":" + "p" as...

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Added on July 28, 2009, 8:10 pmYar.. tolerant abit lah.

Dickson has always been like that. You could read other threads he's been in. IMHO, it's stupid to try and have a technical debate with him.

Just because not everyone conforms to your ideal about how people should behave in forums doesnt mean that you have to come down on him like that.

Besides, attitude brings color to the conversation... Like some of the Real World Issues debates run really dry because of a lack of it and it becomes technical and boring.

You talk like you have a stick up your arse.


Chill girl.

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 28 2009, 08:18 PM

now you're talking about "guilty pleasure" ????

wait ar, let me google.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guilty_pleasure



okay, you're really losing me now.

hahaha, and what were you doing at 2am, Jul 29 2009?


Guilty pleasure whatever. Yeah, it feels damn good.



I get kicks because in real life im so socially isolated and lonely that I cut myself to ease the pain.

Typing online is my only pleasure in life! Take it away and i will kill myself!

Course

I dont know what picture you're talking about, but I really was tiny and nerdy lol... How do you think i discovered this? Ok, i was clinically anorexic. 45kg/174cm not too long ago.


Since putting on over 20kg of lean mass, I've noticed changes... and along with having a healthier mental/emotional state from building up my social circles, I notice my personality changed for the better as well.



Give me a shout on fb. My name there is Ezra Limm.

Try practicing in front of a mirror, it helps. Offer yourself to do presentations and public speaking whenever possible. experience really does count.


If english isnt your mother tongue, then why not just use the language you are comfortable with? Speak with confidence in malay/mandarin/tamil. It shouldnt be a problem if the girl understands you.


My parents had different mother tongues

Hmm, this could be unrelated to confidence. It could very well be a speach impediment if it also affects your mother tongue. You may want to see a speech pathologist for further investigation.

Thread updated.

Inspired by quote from debbieyss.