QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 26 2009, 07:22 PM)
In other words, self-worth/self-esteem is a natural consequence of having lots of friends, being reasonably fit, and being mentally well.
More objectivity?CLOSED, CLOSED
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Jul 26 2009, 07:28 PM
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Jul 26 2009, 09:02 PM
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QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 26 2009, 07:33 PM) You can accuse me of being objective or whatever. It doesnt matter. The core reasoning in the main article stands. Nobody has challenged them yet despite many personal attacks and declarations of logical fallacies. SO what if it is objective/subjective/ambiguous. It doesnt fvcking matter. I stand by what I say: Generally: 1) Being a freaking loner with no friends and not going out is bad for mental health and your social life. 2) Eating sh1t, not exercising and playing video games to the wee hours of the morning will make your physical self more unattractive to the opposite sex. 3) Women do not want sociopath nutcases who cant hold a decent conversation with another human being. In control of one's life + Healthy body + Healthy mind + Healthy emotional state = THRIVING If you think that to thrive in life does not include having a healthy body... SO BE IT. im not forcing you to change your views. It was because of that. |
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Jul 26 2009, 10:44 PM
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Jul 26 2009, 11:03 PM
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QUOTE(159 @ Jul 26 2009, 11:01 PM) Sheesh the tension.. What's wrong with you people, making a mountain out of a molehill? The guy's points were precise and well summarised, something i'd like to read. It's called "atheism of the idea of "survival of the fittest".Simple things can also be stretched out untill 6 pages. And not say all the reply pendek pendek or what, my eyes can bleed trying to squint into my handphone's tiny little screen. Anyway, i've learnt alot these past few days and I must say, i do agree with most of the points. Some I have no comments because I simply don't deserve to. Anyway, to me, what the thread is basically saying is, change yourself because through change, one's self confidence will naturally flourish and with that extra boost of confidence, one will naturally be able to mingle around with people better. Its applicable too when wanting to approach someone of the opposite gender. You dress yourself well, you stay healthy, you stay active, these are attributes that contribute to one's self confidence. And coincidentally, they are attributes that people often look for or covet in someone. Through experience, nobody would wanna choose an average looking guy over a better looking one. Why? Because its more appealing. Duh. So, improve your image, and you'll feel more confidentĀ about yourselves. And at the same time, people will too feel more comfortable wanting to be approached by you. Moral of story of this thread; you look(physically and mentally) good, you'll feel better and will end up with dem ladiez. Btw, it doesn't matter if you say change or enhance, its the same. To enhance your self means to include change that is not normal, thus it can be classifed as change too. That's why the tension. This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Jul 26 2009, 11:10 PM |
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Jul 27 2009, 01:39 AM
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QUOTE(happy4ever @ Jul 27 2009, 01:20 AM) Hi HAHAHAHAHAHAAH! I read your post with great interests. Have you ever considered guys? They accompany you to gym, help you work out, laugh at your jokes, and knows exactly what makes you tick. I know of a forummer here that might be your type. His nick is darklight79 Added on July 27, 2009, 1:24 am QUESTION SIFU!!!! If the mirror pecah each time i look at it, how? Since i can't ask myself anymore? SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL! |
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Jul 27 2009, 10:04 AM
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» Click to show Spoiler - click again to hide... « Perhaps it's because all you've so mentioned so far are mere tangible properties? People are aware of that, but they are also unhappy because you forgot to include the intangibles as well. |
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Jul 27 2009, 10:08 AM
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QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 27 2009, 10:06 AM) That is a good point. give me some time to think about it. Your clinging to the norm is similar to the idea of "survival of the fittest", but you I think you didn't know that people are mostly atheistic against that.I appreciate you bringing it up. PS: tangible is not the word you're looking for, as it implies something concrete.... Hence, the tension. Tangibility is the opposite of abstract, conceptual, imperceptible, intangible, and the unreal. It is the lack of intangibles that you are losing people's conviction. This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Jul 27 2009, 10:15 AM |
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Jul 27 2009, 10:19 AM
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QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 27 2009, 10:14 AM) Totally. If you're truly a realist Ezra, you'll transform your writing efforts into something more tangible, more concrete, something touchable, say, a girlfriend maybe, or your soul mate. I was thinking similarly to that. I am a staunch realist. I believe in realism, not romanticism. I also believe in "survival of the fittest". I've been getting the feeling that some people fell uncomfortable reading the article as it goes against the hope that they have in falling in love with their ideal partner. I gotta admit, reality can be harsh... But waking up to that reality is the first step in making real changes in one's life. Changes for the better. I write with a clear conscience...but sadly truth is not politically correct. There will be winners in the game of love, and there will be losers. If you take comfort in knowing that there are EXCEPTIONS... such as the shy introverted, WOW addicted, obese loner who hooked up with a hot girl... Or the "old uncle" with bad physical/mental/emotional health who has a hot wife... then i guess this article is not for you. Your writings shows that you are probably like us, perceiving reality on our own terms, and perhaps manifesting our own realities. This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Jul 27 2009, 10:21 AM |
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Jul 27 2009, 11:04 AM
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QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 27 2009, 10:41 AM) Thanks for the feedback! You may be forgetting one thing though. Just a simple clarification: this article is not about Love per se. Love blossoms when it blossoms. Fate? Destiny? This article is about how to make girls want to interact with you....giving you more OPPORTUNITIES to fall in love. It guarantees nothing, and is simply a rough guide to getting more of the right type of interaction with girls. Girls are reading it too lol. |
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Aug 2 2009, 11:35 AM
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QUOTE(Anni @ Aug 2 2009, 07:45 AM) I need to communicate in English day in day out in my workplace. Which sometimes I put myself into embarrestment. I will stutter on alot of words, especially words I do not use often. I have the same problem on my first language as well. The good thing is I don't stutter that much speaking cantonese or mandarin. You're probably speaking too fast. Start slowly, and slowly pick up speed.It is hard for me to raise my self-confidence when I can't even socialize like a normal person. Girls aiai :-( |
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