Dont try to start a conversation.

Let it start by itself.

Be yourself.

Be awesome.

She will notice it.

Oh right... there's one thing I forgot to mention.

If you dont like yourself. ie. You dont like what you see in the mirror. You dont like what you hear in videos of yourself.....

Then you need to make changes.

Get in control of your life. Eat well. Sleep well. Have lots of friends... and then, when you are CONFIDENT, then you would find it much easier to "be yourself".


In other words, the "be yourself" advice only works if "yourself" is someone who the girl finds attractive (physically/mentally/emotionally_mature). If you dont like yourself, then what attractive girl with options would like to date you???


Confidence comes naturally when you are thriving. Eat well. Sleep well. Lots of friends... eventually your PERSONALITY will develop, along with your physical attributes. Women will notice that...and will spontaneously start talking to you ...even when you DONT take the initiative

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 24 2009, 05:18 PM

Hmm, i feel that non-verbal communication comes naturally when you are in a good physical and mental state.

It's hard to explain. It's like you get this self consciousness that you just "know" that you are in the game. You walk with confidence. You look with confidence. You talk with confidence. I dont think i can describe the feeling...but you get it when you have lots of friends, you're emotionally secure, and happy with your life. you know how awesome you are. Girls will sense it in you from the way you walk, talk, live and breathe! Then they will subconsciously/consciously want to talk to you! This really works IMO. True confidence cannot be faked - everything will fall apart once you open your mouth even if your posture is perfect.