Its the whole world not just Malaysia and its been a long time since volumetric started. I understand the reasons for it but its been abused for the purpose of money. There are many times its not needed and they do it anyway, like a letter in an envelope. The basic way to combat this is to work to have no difference in weight or volumetric weight, like you said, which you do my adding more goods to fill the airspace and/or to reduce the size of the package, and to not have anything inside that doesnt belong, like heavy packing material.
My usual need is the 150g and 250g Flexipak which in the good old days I used daily and this will never come back due to the extreme charges now which my customers wont pay. I reopened my shop yesterday but expect no business. Because im out of business two years already, im really on the rocks now and will leave. But I cant leave because there is no shipping available for household goods and equipment. I cant even get quotations for anything. I went to a courier near me in Penang, Line Clear, because they advertise "international pallets" but they just laughed at me. Goods can come in but they cant go out?? WTH?
On your east malaysia shipment, as I know at the moment there is a 10kg limit with couriers so you have to move up to logistics companies and freight forwarders of which there are plenty around. Expect to pay dearly though. I think FedEx and DHL take at least 25kg on the airplanes but you might do better on boats where the volumetric allowance is much more favorable.
There are a variety of volumetric calculators online and you can choose what kind of carrier and get different results. The worst is an airplane but i think you already knew that.
Im getting email spam from China carriers advertising as low as RM2/kg but thats outgoing from China. The point here being that I wasnt getting them before now which means things may be opening up. As soon as travel resumes normally the prices will drop. "Open" countries means open shipping too and steadily the countries are dropping MCO, SOP, etc etc etc.
Which is why I'm asking which company. Risk of fakes/ripoff etc so I'm asking directly which are used by people.
Also like I said I've only ever bought from japan to malaysia, no matter is EMS or airmail or seamail, they weigh by actual weight. The only restriction is within 30kg and the total length/diametric is within 1.5 meter or something. Who tf cares how big it is that's very unfair to consumers. The only time I heard about this is when I had to exchange something, and poslaju charged me RM200+ near RM300 for volumetric while if it's japan to malaysia it'd be within RM100 for the actual weight. Pissed off so bad that day.