May 11 2009, 08:42 PM
QUOTE(ravager877 @ May 11 2009, 07:52 PM)
Sigh.
Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...
As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.
My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.
1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...
All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...
I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...
Damn sad...
1. 3k can be earn within a year so no problem.Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...
As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.
My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.
1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...
All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...
I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...
Damn sad...
2. No problem by next year also can gao tim.
3. 2k only, by next year also can gao tim. Girls like this, do it for them.
4. Wedding dinner you will get back the dinner money from ang paos. So you don't have to pay that much in the end. There is no written rule that must have alcohol. Even for my wedding I don't think I will have hard liquor, just red wine and yes I'm chinese. Nothing wrong with no alcohol.
If i remember correctly, you are the guy who post your problem last time. But no matter, this is a special day, for you, your wife to be, your family and her family. If money is tight, cut down on non necessities like maybe alcohol, or wedding car can borrow fren's car, etc and spend more on the necessities and fine details. Your wedding can look grand without spending the odd 20-30K. Get friends to help. Involve them in some decorations, help in make up, etc. There are so many area you can save in i think. I never married and dun know much bout marriage process but I'm sure there are many areas to save in. The pour out on more needed area.
Once you work out the fine details, get help, etc. I'm sure things will fall into place. Cheers
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