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 ): I need helps for my relationship, please?, it's going too fast? I need advise badly

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aaronoid
post May 6 2009, 07:48 PM

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QUOTE(toxicgirl @ Apr 24 2009, 06:56 PM)
Hey peoples. I need help, tremendous help in my confusing relationship.  rclxub.gif
Yes I know I'll be answered with 'too fast' about my relationship, and that's the cause.

We recognized each other in club introduced by my friend.  We had a few days chat, as in 2 weeks, or even lesser? The next time we met, still, in club. & that's where we end up as a lovebird stepping out the club going home that night, and we tongue-kissed during the night and he did some touching under there *you know what* and I was shock but I've no opinion during that time.

I think perhaps I'm tipsy, he either. But we still use to sms the next day, we called each other baby, bii, whatever sweety pie, cherry pie, vodka, whatever nick name we can do. lol, but okay, the next day, I was drunked in the club, my friend sent me to his house, and we did oral sex. AND, he nearly get my virginity when i'm in a tipsy mode. But then he didn't. I was really, really drunk that night.

After that, we did some talk, but he doesn't really care about what I say. All he want is just, 'come to my house la if you wanna understand me more' I was like, wtf seriously. The first few weeks we couple up, yes I got lied to go to his house to have dinner, end up I overnight at his house, cause I wanted to. But he just, well, quite wild? I met his parents already, just for the freaking 1st week, I so feel ashame. My mom complained alot of times, so I asked him to meet my mom, but he rejected. I felt dissapointed and I can feel our love flows slower than before, because I don't like guys who reject to meet parents, I feel that they've no brave at all --  shakehead.gif I spent times with him and his friends, every night went for yumcha session with them, but instead I talked more to his friends more than him.

Yes, we've no topic. Or should I probably say, he doesn't even give a shit to my topic -.-
I discussed to him several times, he said sorry, he'll improve, but when we met face to face, he goes lazy to care about what we had mention.

and now, I tried not to even reload a sen to my phone and it continued for around 5 days, he only give me a call, ask me where am I, wanna go out or not, sometimes he even call just to chat a few moments, but what we do, is, how are you, and that's it, we stayed quiet for a moment. Seriously, I'm those common girl which hope that my relationship will stay alive every moment, stay talkative. So I couldn't bare with the second we gotten silent. I know sometimes stay quiet might be a good ending but not all time?!?!  shocking.gif

Whenever I stories to him about what happened, he's like replying with a "mm." then when I talked about his friends stuffs he like picturing dongeng stories that can talk alot sleep.gif  shakehead.gif

I then talked to him again, I told him did he felt weird about what happen to us recently? He's like, is it? I don't think so.  vmad.gif
and that's it, he's going to Japan next week, he mention to wait for him, but I'm confuse, shoud I? I love to hang out with his group of friends. I llike him, but we hardly can maintain as a lovebird anymore.

I wanna rescue it........
or should I let go?  doh.gif  rolleyes.gif

I'm not sad, I'm just hestitating how.  unsure.gif
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Ok... that is something I just can't stand about girls. Putting guys to the test!

I mean... you don't see guys doing that to you do they? Probably the reason why he did not call you is because you did not call him! I really like the part where you spoke to him about your problems and that he actually said he would change, and maybe next time you could take the opportunity to find means to talk to him instead. For things to change, you need to change first. Get a hobby together, do something together which you can talk about... Go genting together with him, it should cost only about RM90 for both of you guys. Create something both of you share an interest with instead of moping around on him not talking.

Now that he has gone to Japan... I understand the loning period there. But please do give him a chance, or maybe... give YOURSELF a chance instead.

 

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