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 ): I need helps for my relationship, please?, it's going too fast? I need advise badly

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Tatsumaki
post Apr 25 2009, 04:04 AM

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I'll summarize to see if I understand your environment.

The both of you first were introduced to each other in a club via mutual friend. The next outing you two met at a club again and in the heat of things decided to couple up. French kissing and petting followed.

The following days are filled with 'couple activities'. During this time, he's almost had sex with you.
You've said you and him have little in common to talk about.
He doesn't want to meet your parents
He doesn't want to meet your friends.
He gives one word answer then you talk

Strictly coming from a third party observer and being non judgmental, it appears this relationship isn't healthy.
I am not here to stand to say whether you rushed in or not. My opinions of "Rush" and yours probably differs. On the basis that you did not rush it - this relationship is currently exhibiting unhealthy signs.

I could be wrong, but from the signs you have explained, a rough deduction is that there is a high percentage that this guy, just wants to get into your panties.

Fortunately this guy isn't experienced and he is exhibiting signs of disinterest in a long term relationship. There is still good in this experience, be thankful that he wasn't a professional player or your thread would start out explaining how you woke up one morning stark naked and a certain body part feeling unnaturally tender and sore.

One more word of caution. If you're a frequent club goer, it is wise to bring some trustworthy girlfriends along to be your wingmen (winglady)
These can ensure that even if you get piss drunk, you're home safely (on the basis that all of you don't get piss drunk)
Secondly, if a guy tries to or successfully spikes your drink, you still have your friends to fall back on.

It's not wise to drink until you're smashed and go alone with some guy whom you only known for 7 days. You might wake up next morning regretting it, unless that is the type of lifestyle you with to pursue.

This post has been edited by Tatsumaki: Apr 25 2009, 04:09 AM
Tatsumaki
post May 6 2009, 02:13 AM

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You've earned an experience notch under your belt. Remember it well so that you can advise others in future that they may not (I don't have an English term for this) "Terjerumus ke dalam lurah kehinaan
(well maybe I do, "FUBAR themselves")

 

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