I'm not really sure what I expect to gain from posting on these forums. I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone here has been in a similar situation and what they did. My GF and I have been dating for more than a year now and we're usually very careful about our sexual activities, but she missed her period this month (kind of - there's bleeding just not a lot of it ) and so we did a pregnancy test that came up positive. She's going to the doctors today to get confirmation whether or not she's pregnant.

This is happening at a not so good time as although I'm working and earning a decent salary, I don't have much saved up as I've only been working for about a year. She is also earning a good pay and technically speaking we could afford to raise a kid together. But the problem is that our parents would definitely freak out about this and her mum is especially sensitive to these matters. To make matters worse, her mum is not in the best physical shape and telling her this is likely to cause enough stress to break her...

Me and my GF have discussed this and no matter how we try, if she is pregnant, we don't seem to be able to come to a comfortable resolution.. It seems that the only way out of this situation is to terminate the pregnancy...

I'm really reluctant to do this...

This post has been edited by ravager877: Mar 24 2009, 08:23 AM

The decision is 100% yours.

Just FYI, abortion is illegal in Malaysia (but you can still find clinics that do it quietly) but legal in Singapore.

abortion is killing an innocent human being. U r as good as your child's killer.


Happy Father's Day.

responsible for it... terminate the pregnancy is not the best solution, it just make you feel guilty in the future... please , if you're not ready for the pregnancy , go look for hookers la... shame to the girl... cannot imagine, even if i'm your gf parents, i'll kill you...

just my 2 cents

dare to do it dare to face it

Abortion is quiet easily said by by male, but for ladies...that is very important and seriously affected to her body... Hope that b4 abortion, u 2 able to discuss as well...Lets say , change the situation on u, the ppl pregnant is u....if apply abortion , what side effect that able to cause ur healthy... IMPORTANT,. is the communication between both of u. Dun simply discussing and make decision.

be a good dad and raise your child.Abortion may endangered her life

why don't you both get married? is it that much harder than to kill your own child?

dun simply say wanna do abortion lar..shame on u..

Hopefully the results from the doctor is something that you would like to hear. N from there may you make the right decision.

Good luck!

get married and raise the child.. be aman... face the reality

If i am in your shoes now, i will walk her to her parents and tell them Im ready to be father.

You are so careless, anyway the decision is on ur gf whether to do abortion.

how old r u n your gf?
Whichever decision you made would be the right choice for the both of you, but do consider keeping the baby, there is never a right time to have a baby and in this century its never shameful to marry when ya pregnant.

90% malaysian struggle raising a child, so its a common thing not restrict to just both of you (financially)

congratulation, and good luck

That's why we are taught not to have sex before marriage!

Abortion is holy damn cruel, don't ever do that. Give the child chance to live. He/she deserves that.

If you do so, your girl might not be able to get pregnant again. That is one of the risks of aborting child. Do you want that to happen?

Take your time, wisely use your mind , think carefully.

Be the man.

This post has been edited by mannquin: Mar 23 2009, 09:55 AM

tak cukup skill then become pregnant.
get married raise the baby.
some ppl wants child even after 10 years marriage also dun have one
some ppl dont want child but gets it

Think of the female, the side effects of abortion....

Did you really want to harm out your GF in this way?

If u're both financially capable then maybe u should give it a shot? Not all couples who have an unplanned pregnancy are necessarily emotionally ready, and it just takes some time to get used to the idea..If u're really committed to ur gf, and u can see her as ur life partner, why not? Also due to the sudden revelation of her pregnancy, perhaps u guys are still in shock. Maybe once u calm down emotionally, u could make the right decision for the both of u, whether u choose to abort or not.

happy father's day...and please don't do abortion...

Since you guys sound pretty steady & seem to be able to go the distance, why not have the child?

Else, if both of you think this child is a mistake, & that you wont be able to care for him/her properly, then its better getting an abortion imho. No reason making your future child suffer & be stigmatized for your mistakes.