i can understand how do you feel after betrayed by loved one. but is there a need to have hatred with the one you loved before? somehow, that is her problem isn't it? try to let go of all feelings, inclusive of the hatred and anger. i am sure you can get a better one.

Actually that's great you still find it comfortable to be able to talk and hang out with him. I didn't have this kind of comfort neither do I have the courage to do so at least for the time being. I suggest you give each other sometime to hang back.

like i've said, when we hang out and talk, it is just the same like we were together, the difference will be we no longer hold hands, no more kissing and hugging those. i'm giving each other sometime to hang back. especially after he came to look for me yesterday, i've decided to just be invisible for the moment. it is not i can not face him or any trick that i am playing. i believe we both need a break from each other. i was there all the while for him and i think sometime he feels "fan" because of that too. now, i do not know if he is really still loves me or may be no more but i do not want to anything that makes him feels i am no good.

i was sad ,and keep thinking about my first ex's till now,eventho i wasted my time dating with others too,and i cant never get rid of the feeling,it has been almost 3- 4 years since we broke up,but eventho if u r sad now,its not gonna bring u anywhere,theres a msg tht she sent to me on 20/11/2009(imagine after so long she still told me 2 learn how 2 let go) ,u r sad to hear this word,but u cant do anything ,world isnt waiting for u,it was u who chasing after world.if u r meant for her,eventho if u r a married man now,u will still be hers. :)dont waste ur time .

wow... sorry to hear that. i lost mine after 6 years and been single after that.hope u find someone better and try not to take it too hard. i did and been hard to let someone in.

I kind of agreed with that based on my own personal experience.

It is funny that jealousy lies within our subconscious mind in which hatred and anger is expressed consciously in our feelings. Don't you think?

My second year breakup anniversary of our 4 years' old relationship drew nearer. All I can do is to tell myself that it is just a bad nightmare and hopefully I can find a better one soon.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Yesterday, 10:03 AM

Can someone tell me how come 7 years of relationship can still get broke up?

Being ignorant and not doing anything to make the relationship better from either side?

I guess so.

Any other possibilities?

In fact jealousy is something no one can ever get away with. Not only it is expressed in the form of hatred and anger, but also in the form of trying to limit/control the other party from doing this and that. Yes and that was part of the reason why my relationship ended. *sob*

Another issue due to this jealousy problem is being overly sensitive to things each other does and comparison with other people around us over many things.

Not to say I've gotten over entirely yet, but I would say I am definitely taking baby steps to get over it bit by bit. I now realized that, there were a whole lot of things I did missed out during the time when I was with her because I am sure everyone has this kinda feeling like "the whole world belongs to us now and no one else" and before any of us realized when it's all over, there are tonnes of things we're actually missing out and it's already too late to regret not doing those certain things we knew we could have done.

All I've got to say is that time is precious, do what you can while you can. Time cannot be given but rather it can be shared. (Got this one from a book)

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Yesterday, 01:52 PM

It's been quite a while since I visited Cupid's Corner, but only recently, the negative emotions of jealousy start to manifest me again, until I came by this thread. Reading some posts from d-zire and Dremax gave me some comfort. Thanks.

Keep the positive vibes flowing.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Yesterday, 05:32 PM

jealousy is something really dangerous. i used to be very sensitive because of the insecurity feelings, at the end i did some mistakes. this is the second day i totally block him off from my life. i do not contact him at all even though i know i have a chance to do so. i am trying to make my life as beautiful as i can. i do wonder, if a guy will fall in love with the ex again or not? guys here, can you share your experience with me?

Dremax, i know which book is that, i love that book too. it is so true that time can not be given but can be shared.

Well for the first few weeks I broke up with my ex, it feels totally weird, and I had a numb feeling about everything. I don't know where to go. I feel lonely, being in solitude, and is very very lost. It was also the time where I tried very hard wanted to get back into the relationship, but then as time goes by, I came to learn that even if one day, we reunited, the relationship won't be the same anymore like it used to be. We may have grown into two different individuals and we both are in different worlds already. Sad but true. What ends must end.

The only thing I can tell myself and what dremax mentioned also, appreciate your loved ones while you can. When you only appreciate your loved one when it's already over, it is already very very very late. All I must do is to move on, and shall never repeat the same mistake like I did before again.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Yesterday, 10:45 PM