I agree with you. For me I am not so ready to accept her as a friend just yet. Probably in a few months down the road I will be able to and I hope I will be able to. My break up did have a big impact on whatever I was doing and still doing. But it seems kinda clear to me what is actually happening around myself now. Those shattered pieces of my life are slowly coming back together with no thanks to some of my friends in and out campus who has been able to help me a little here and there to let the past stay behind and slowly move on step by step.

I've also gotta to agree with everyone that, it really takes some time to accept our ex-es to be nothing but just friends. It's just how ourselves tend to deal with it and how long we actually really need.

hi help me guys..
my fren (he also fren with my ex)that encourage and give the support to me due this break-up suddenly send sms to me says that mybe i could still save our relationship and ask me to meet him today...I don't know should i go and talk to him..

Your friend said that "You could save your relationship"? Do you believe what he's telling you? You broke off with your ex or she did?

I did bcoz she cheats me..ya I believe what he tell me,but I didn't believe my ex after so mny times she crush my believe in her..I have made up my mind,I will not go and repeating all this painful s**t..beside the one who try to save our relationship is our fren,not my ex..and what I said to my fren is,"why you says I could save our relationship,actually she the one who should..not me,I hve give her chance so many times before this..this is the end."my fren ask me did I still love her..I said you know it..but I will move on even it's hard for me..hopefully as time pass by I will forget this all.

This post has been edited by mazarul: Nov 9 2009, 02:05 PM

morning everyone

Good thinking there. Seriously, since you said you given chances to repent from what she has done and she still doesn't repent from it, it's just better to let her go and not to try safe it. It's only going to happen again sometime.

i broke up 4 months ago but still can't get rid of him from my mind. relationship is such a weird thing.. when one want to break up, you will think all the bad things about him but when already broke up, you can't stop thinking about his goods... how i wish he could come back to me but just not possible even though when we hang out together, i could still feel something in his heart(may be i think too much). he is not willing to give any chance. "not everyone deserve a second chance" is what he told me...

Just broke up yesterday after 7yrs.. Real screwed up feeling

-pat pat-

Get your buddies, go out and just feel free. Less you think, faster you get over it.

Poor thing you. Like what ZeratoS said, get your buddies, hang out with them, have chats with them and you know, friends would help friends.

Besides you have us here in LYN

Smile

look for your girlfriends, go shopping. and find for another hunk.

thanks a lot... i believe time is the best healer... may be it take a longer time...

woah...7 years of relationship...thats pretty long...i feel sad for you too...and i'm very sorry to hear that...maybe its a blessing in disguise...mind sharing what happened? maybe you would feel better after sharing it. its entirely up to you.

Where did u go for counseling???

---

Added on November 18, 2009, 8:26 pmhw to get over the feeling of being used and silly decision tht were after a relationship...i think my prob is not tht i want him back but i feel i gave too much and it was not worth it???

This post has been edited by lavendervalley: Nov 18 2009, 08:26 PM

I've been used in a relationship before. The feeling is indescribeable. But tell you what, if you choose not to think about what has happened and just put it aside and also be a lot more careful when going into a relationship again then you should be all fine.

May I some question here?

Why people tend to be hate to the people loved before?. Like my case, she tend to hate me
so much even I said just be a friend is enough for me.

She the one who asked for break-up and all these things happen she started.
Now, she hate me the most. Why?

friendship has to go both ways. if she hates u, so be it, move on. but no, one does not necessarily have to hate their exes. unless u really really really screwed up during the relationship. or some people just have some issues

Just my own opinion, the hatred feeling comes from jealousy.

But then again evaluating your issue here, she might find you a little "menyampah" but no offence. It takes time to be able to accept the other party as a friend again. Depending on how each party handles the situation.

it is going to be two months after the break up. eventually i do not know the reason for break up too. we sort of had an argument due to a date for us and there came the break up. we still hang out together as usual, we went for dinner and movies but i do not know how to explain this. i could still feel his feelings on me from the way he looks at me and so on yet at the same time i can feel he is hiding something from me. i am very sure there is no third party involved, even it does, it will only be his parents.

am i thinking too much? until today i sometimes feel it as we have not break up yet because we talk everyday and hang out as usual but i know that we are not that close anymore. i know, i need to get over it.

I just broke up with her. Just a short 1.5 months r.ship. lucky i was cautious. Not sad, but angry. She got back to her ex while i thought it was settled long ago. She 2 timed me. I was made a fool or scapegoat for here lonely n unstable moments. I was being kicked around like a ball. "I asked u come, I dun want u go..." But, I know her mum. All the while she thought her daughter is a good girl in othr state. I'm gonna reveal her secrets. He's a married man...