Let me see how should i start?

I'm a succesfull computer engineer in a growing company which is expanding... I have a very intresting personality, i do not feel akward when i meet anyone new... people in my company loves me because i cheer up the office everytime i come back to the office after my business trips... I feel very happy when people appreciates me...

Talking to girls is not a problem and going for outings with them such as lunch or shopping after work is basically fine with me... I spend a lot of time with girls then boys ! Anyway if i like a girl i will spend more time with them and sometimes i feel that the girl is waiting my move to hold their hand or say something sweet... but this is my problem... i cannot pull the "Trigger" to say I LOVE YOU or even hold that girls hand... This problem has made me lost out in a lot of girls and seeing them going out with other boys...

Whats wrong with me...???

i have posted abt me being rejected last year, it all went okay after that with her. suddenly right up to this moment, shes avoiding me? why now? im totally confused, why didnt she avoided me earlier but now? wtf? I've asked her, and she said yes im avoiding you, im going to keep a distant between us. But seriously, the things that had been through is simply too much, i couldnt accept this, it just came so sudden.

So basically, the conversation between the two of us has somewhat been very awkward and she gets very sensitive over small matters that i do to her. Lets say, i play around with her, she will get mad at me. Im joking with her, she will get sensitive about it. I try to talk to her nicely, her responses were rather vague.

We hang out with the same bunch of people, so there is one guy, lets just call him J. She will be by his side all the time, during meals, movies, outings etc. Before, they werent even close at all, barely known each other. And whenever i tried to talk to her when J is around, she will quickly go over to this J and start talking to him and ignore me like i dont even exist. OK fine, i know people will tell me stay cool and stuff but i just couldnt bare to see. I dunno if this is her tactic to make me leave her even faster? Thats my view so far on her.

Yes, i know some of you guys will say " TS, just forget bout her and move on with your life". The answer is i cant as of now. At this stage, it can be said completely impossible to make her my gf, but thats not the point im creating this thread for. Im only hoping that she can be what she used to be, a caring, kind, adorable, helpful girl that i have known.
What am i suppose to do?


Im completely down and i just need a sensible replies from the forummers here.

And for those who wants to flame me, please go ahead.

Thanks.

generally, there's this girl i liked alot, and seriosly i mean alot, we knew each other for almost a year now, but we were only quite close for about 2month

in this 2month, really is the moment of my life, we've been true sweat, sad , funny moments.( she already know i like her alot, but we still kinda hang out as mutual friends) but the sad truth is she alway said that i treats her very good but we would be better of being friends and she doesnt have feeling for me

i know that you people will properly advice me to move on and all, but i really dont want to, i really like her so much, i dont want to let her go..NO is not a answer for me

the problem is, recently, it seems that she feels that i am too good to her, and there's thing i should not be involve in, as in i care too much of her, she says that she will get pressured whenever i am around, she doesnt even want to go out with me ( just 2 of us) anymore . and she's getting "fan gan" of the things i did.

sometimes, when i am at her house or anyplace, she doesnt seem to want to talk to me anymore, like being rejective and not as caring and friendly toward me anymore

i felted that our friendship is slowy drifting away, but i really dont know what to do, cause i dont want to see her everyday and in the end she's just my normal friend, i really want to be in a relationship with her.

i really dont know what i can do , to fixs this mess now..

i really want our friendship to be back as lasttime.

Stated serious talk. Please. I'm not in a good mood d. This is the place i can ask for opinion. So pls...no bullshit.
okay, sorry for being rude. i cant stand it..
I try to force myself to writing something coz actually i oso dno whats wrong with her.all happen in a sudden.
Last friday i still went out with her, a normal date that every couple would do it.i sent her home. she gave me a goodbye kiss and said i love u to me. everthing seems fine till the next day.she start ignoring me ( din reply my msg,din pick up my call) till today.
i called more then 10 times and sent her more than 10 sms.
not even one replied.
what happen actually?

Thing happen like for almost 2 month. We be in this relationship for 8 month almost 1 year. Last year was my time for my spm i study hard and overcome my test. Well my gal she the one who going to take this year. From last 2 month back December 1st 2007 she been acting weird. just before last month she call me up and told me. She decided to break off with me and cry for 2 ~ 3 days thinking about it and etc etc. But in the end she say she think over and over she give me 1 more chance to prove that i respect her trust her and many other thing. From that day on ward nothing good happen. She been avoiding me, Nvr call me up, Done nothing as a gf

Status of our relationship

Boy <TS>

Parent : Met before parent satisfy with it
Friend : All know and always support me.
Brother Sister ? : Happy with it. Support me
Love : Love her with all my heart
Sacrifice : When she call up from her house i will drive to buy a single lunch and go over her place and give her and went back home like a stupid guy (Pizza Delivery)
1 Leg on 2 boat : Nvr
Betray her? : NVR

Girl <TS gal>

Parent : Nvr met before, can't even talk to them.
Friend : Only a few know. She say she doesn't want let too many people know.
Brother sister : Brother doesn't know / Sister, YEs in fact her sis Maple charather lvl 100++ kena hack suspect that i'm the one who hack her.
Love : Previous yes. After tat nvr have.
Sacrifice : Yes she does in the first 3 ~4 month after that ... u guy know right ?
1 Leg on 2 boat : Unsure  But i believe she won't
Betray Him<ts> : Unsure ;( Not very sure. Sometime i try to trust her but my heart doesn't .. its like a kind of feel i fear

When She sick i wake up middle of midnight cook soup / boil some herbal tea and take over to let her drink the nxt day. Even i doesn't have enough sleep or even i doesn't have vehicle i will Walk about 4~5 km or more to her house ( YES really try before ) or cycle over to her house. Just to let her drink. Everytime i visit her i buy her breakfast. Birthday Purposely went to order a cake from secret recipe and wanna put a maple yeti pic on the cake but not enough time i cancel the order even i had to pay the money without having the yeti (wasted). Gave her my gold necklace which was given from my grand grand mother. Went to langkawi with friend the whole time just paying attention to my phone. Pay for her phone bill, Bought her a phone.

But in the end all i done. I get this result
She avoiding me .. didn't call me up nvr did anything for me right now. When kena accident she nvr call up. Even after 2nd day i accidently just call up and ask me what happen. i get so frustrated and say nothing.

generally, there's this girl i liked alot, and seriosly i mean alot, we knew each other for almost a year now, but we were only quite close for about 2month

in this 2month, really is the moment of my life, we've been true sweat, sad , funny moments.( she already know i like her alot, but we still kinda hang out as mutual friends) but the sad truth is she alway said that i treats her very good but we would be better of being friends and she doesnt have feeling for me

i know that you people will properly advice me to move on and all, but i really dont want to, i really like her so much, i dont want to let her go..NO is not a answer for me

the problem is, recently, it seems that she feels that i am too good to her, and there's thing i should not be involve in, as in i care too much of her, she says that she will get pressured whenever i am around, she doesnt even want to go out with me ( just 2 of us) anymore . and she's getting "fan gan" of the things i did.

sometimes, when i am at her house or anyplace, she doesnt seem to want to talk to me anymore, like being rejective and not as caring and friendly toward me anymore

i felted that our friendship is slowy drifting away, but i really dont know what to do, cause i dont want to see her everyday and in the end she's just my normal friend, i really want to be in a relationship with her.

i really dont know what i can do , to fixs this mess now..

i really want our friendship to be back as lasttime

Good guy here.

You see, everytime I want to become a bad guy, a girl always know that I'm faking it.

The only natural moments I have is when I'm a good guy.

Girls don't need good guys don't they? Is either they choose bad guys, or good guys who pretends to be bad guys.

But how do you pretend to be someone you're not? And since being a bad guy is the best solution for girls to like you, then how come they always know that you're not being yourself?

For the girls to be happy, I think all good guys should kill themselves. Life will be much easier.

Greetings

Okay, long story short, I am single, and I fall in love with my best friend. But sadly she already got boyfriend sad.gif
Well actually its okay. I'm actually really glad if she is happy.

But nowadays, I can sense something wrong with her. She sometimes get jealous when I hang out with someone, like she has feeling on me.

Some additional story to explain why do I think she has feeling on me smile.gif

last time, i like this one girl..since she is my bestfriend, i discussed with her about that, and she did encouraged me to confess it to her..it was her friend btw..
so after i confessed, i got rejected..no problem, life goes on..we (me and that gurl i confessed to) still friends, like usual..

one time, when we were YMing, i only YMed this gurl, but not my best friend..
as a result, she avoided my cl and didnt reply my sms..so after convinced her, she said that she "touching" with me becoz of not YMing her that time.

and 1 more worst situation, just happened recently..i called both of them to hang out last weekend..but sadly my bestfriend didnt pickup the call, maybe she was asleep, so i just hanged out with that girl..and then, after knew we were hanging out, she totally avoided my sms and call, she even switched off her hp..
and suddenly i found her at Plaza Alam Sentral, so we met..from her face and body expression, i can totally felt that she is kinda uncomfortable seeing me..
so i was actually kinda mad with her attitude, the i went home..
she smsed, i didnt reply..then she called, we discussed..she told me that she is totally angry with me becoz hanging out with her..
i kinda knew the answer, but i still asked, but she didnt want to answer..

the call ended with not-too happy ending..we forgave each other, and we are still friends, but she still dont want to explain why she was angry..

so basically from all that happened, im not sure, but i can feel that she likes me, even she already got bf

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So what should I do guys? Should we meet up and discuss about this matter seriously?
I don't mind what her answer might be. Its ok if she does like me, and it also ok if she doesnt. All I want is to be her frined smile.gif

Hope to get some help here. I'm really appreciate it.
Thanks

Two yrs ago I got chase this girl , "GND" (Gal-next-door type), this gal from Cat City, werks in KL, is nice fair gal with long hair, girl-next-door type, wub.gif wub.gif

and she is friends wif me, we got hang out in group, so I got buy gifts for her, ask her out, she got go wif me , but i was totaly nuts over her, dunno why, more so than others gal i met b4 ...

Then I got confess to her, she sked, avoid me ... so I tutup kes, emo a bit and move on lar ...

Lately, she got call me, say meet up, I meet up yumcha (no MLM, whew...)

So she said, hows things lar.. she single now (i asked, of course), she say just relaxing being single,
but her attittude to me is change from before, for long time she avoid me, nvr answer my call, go out in group she try not to talk to me, i also biarla, cos group of frens, i also avoid going if i knoes she go...

She'll MSN me now every once in a while, ask me makan edi, what i do weekend...

So I feels, hey, relationship is a funny thing, even if there is attraction, but come different time, is it fated not be together? while now i am single, i edi moved on, with diff focus and expectations...


I not to say lansi, just that its about timing ...

right feel, right time for both party is important, u guys opinion? any of u same case, where the timing was wrong altogether?

I MUST find someone that has the same intelligence if not higher/better than mine. i don't know why but i need my boyfriend to be smarter than me(but i think that it's quite easy to find one coz i don't think i'm that smart either    ). i feel proud to have a smart boyfriend 

being the not-so-pretty me, i do set standards for both character and looks. it would be effin fake for me to say looks would not be important because it is important. of course i do not need to have tht brad pitt look or george clooney charm kinda boyfriend. but i do need my boyfriend to be presentable and be able to look good at times when needed(when? up to my very own preference). i wouldn't wanna be walking around with an empty vessel with only looks but nothing in the inside.

and yes, boyf is quite smart(i think). being the straight A's student but he's with me, the not so intelligent one. but we're doing quite well in sustaining(till now  )

And so I've learned that there is such a thing as PM limits in LYN. Sorry I can't reply to those who have PM-ed so far.

Um... it's nice to see my thread getting quite heart-to-heart. I'm pretty sure I'm not out looking for my one true love via LYN. But I'm open to anything. I guess I won't have high expectations... what am I expecting from ppl who hang out on LYN all the time?

I have to say for the most part, you're all pretty genuine...

I'll be online for the next 40 mins or so. What we can do of course is have an audio chat ...I can hear how you speak. Some of you don't type very good English... sooooo... that's a bit of a letdown.

A guy, past his mid 20s, is looking for a serious relationship. He 5ft 6" and under 60kg. Quite skinny for a guy his age and he does not have a very attractive body. He is simply an average joe working in the IT sector. He's looking for love online, and wants a girl who is quite slim and attractive (~55kg, ~5ft 5"). However, it is unlikely that his online attempt would be successful as many girls who fit the criteria he specifies would already be taken/unavailable.

well...i have a crush toward my colluegue who is 10 year elder then me...okok i seek a lot advice frm frenz and most told me age is not a issue nowadays as long both thinking can cope with each other...but i just worry duno wat he think and mayb he might just treat me as his sister.. he is very seriuos in his work and didnt talk to other people much...oway the cool and serious face in office seldom smile...in other word he is 1 level up then us(boss)....his daily life is go office work at 8am and finish work 5pm then mostly stay at office till 8pm oni go home...after home he rest and go eat wif his housemate then watch tv and dat da call off the day...

dis few week i started to know more bout him and start chat wif him and sms wif him eventually he did reply me and we have gone out to have dinner few times togather :)after da dinner we know each other better...but the part i confuse is sometime i sms him he din reply me...and oway is i sms him 1st and oso to invite or ask him for dinner...he never ask me have dinner b4 or sms me ...oni work related sms he oway sent to me ...

yesterday he is sick and have flu and i m happy i brave enough to make him a bottle of herbal tea and gave him to drink to cure his flu... ...he accept and he say tq 2 me...i m so happy when he say dat 2 me...duno why but i juz feel so nice....when we talk and eat dinner togather he is very casual wif me and joke wif me oso...but in office of coz we dun talk much coz i dunwan ppl say he bias to me...and my colluegue told me dat is some rumours spread around us coz when we have gathering dinner he fetch me gather in his car oni me n him...dat nite 1 of my colluegue ask him this question :what relationship both of you? but he juz kept quiet and ignore her question...

in other colluegue eyes,he is known as very stright and serious in his work and coz he staying wif his housemate and oway go work 2gather so they once say he is gay...although all dat i have heard but he juz simply captured my eye and heart...after few time dinner and casual chatting wif him i can say he is not a romantic guy but he is caring and can give me secure feeling and i feel comfortable wif him...as i get to know frm his close housemate...so far he never date any gul or go out wif any gul yet...and frm his hp inbox msg(accidently open    coz take his phone play game and he ask me keep his phone for him)...he oni sms wif me....

but i m so confuse when i sms him sometime he dun reply me...my friend say he might busy but anyhow oso at least can reply a sms rite?hrm....confuse and i duno wheather he know i have feeling toward him onot...my frenz say he does know coz if he duno he wont ignore the rumours and will be avoilding me and wont have dinner wif me alone...

a noob question to guys...if a gul ask u out for dinner few time and make u a bottle of herbal tea when u sick then sent sms to concern about u..will u guy know or sense that the gul like u or have crush on u?

aarrghh....i m so confuse here...i duno wat to do now...he is flying back to kuching tonight and away for 2 weeks oni back to work...wat should i do
to let him know i have a crush on him?i m fear to tell him straight face to face...oso i duno wat he will think of our age gap...or he proberly juz treat me as his sister  ..wat should i do?haiz

On behalf of my fren, Fire.
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I currently chase these two gal, April and June. April is eng ed gal, June is chinese ed gal, both also I love, we very ngam, steady chat, go out dating a bit ...

Last nite, I MSN wif both of them at same time, and wif a few other ppl also. I salah send this message to June, that was meant for April:

Fire: "Ei, so tmrw nite, gimme a sneak preview, tell me waht u gonna wear la, i very excite la... (L) (L)"

June: ??? 你不是告诉我你明天没有时间见我吗??? (dint u say tmrw u not free see me?)

Fire: (PANIC)

June: 你... 是不是对别个女孩说话??? (r u talking with another gal???)

Fire: 开玩笑啦... 没有啦... (i joking lar, dun have)

June: 王八蛋!! 你以为我白痴的???  (bstard! u think i idiot??)

Then she offline dy ... chia lat 
I try sms, call, she dun answer, .... how to recover??? I really liek her 
Mebbe a little more than April oso ... anyone can help me find recovery method ...

Recently I had a crush on this girl, who is a very independent girl. She is one of the top scores in my degree classes, she has been president for many situations.... and I cant seem to get to her Shes on the plump side but her smile just melts me down.

She tells me that she currently has nobody on her mind. I dare not tell her how I feel about her as she has shown not much interest in me, she only treats me like a friend. Whats more is that we've agreed to be group members for a number of our assignments, I'm afraid if it turns sour things might really get screwed up.

Some of you may have seen my last thread few months back~  you can read it up here.

http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=617423&hl

I took some advise... and wait... and get closer to her. We did get closer.. but...

I'm starting to feel stupid going after her. Day in day out I do my best to keep her happy. I find ways to help her. I listen to her troubles. I listen to her anger when shes angry at others. Practically.. I'm there for her almost everytime she needs me.

She calls me up when she has a problem, but pushes me away when I'm not needed....

Most of the time when I'm with her friends or just with the company of someone else.... she tends to just... leave me out.
But when I'm alone with her... she gives me attention.

fark.. I feel like I'm just a toy, use to hug when its a rainy day, pushed into the closet during the other days.... I just want to be appreciated by her once in a while... *sigh*

You've been seeing this girl for awhile. One day, when you are with her alone, you make a move. She doesnt reject you so you keep on going. But she does not reciprocate (return the affection) either. Days later she confesses by internet chat that she has someone else in mind... You've spent quite alot of time/money/effort on this girl and you are pretty upset. Not to mention very very hurt as you had high hopes on her.