Office relationships....Does it ever work?, Updates on 1st post - as requested! (Serious)
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Office relationships....Does it ever work?, Updates on 1st post - as requested! (Serious)
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Aug 26 2009, 03:52 PM
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QUOTE(darlingangel @ Aug 26 2009, 01:08 PM) Granted, it's not for everyone. However I feel with office relationships one has to be able to clearly separate work and personal life. People can/will talk, but that doesn't mean anything - after all you are only answerable to yourself. I didn't even have to tell my boss about my fiance, he found out and was even all buddy buddy with him. I was my fiance's manager after we got together. Didn't affect our relationship one bit. No one talked about us. Even my managers knew and they didn't say anything, I was his manager for about a year before I finished off on that project and moved on to another project. We got engaged and our managers even sent us an engagement gift. My case might be one in a million where our bosses and peers do not think that dating another colleague is not encouraged, and that they trust and believed in us to keep our personal and work life separate. We're not the only couple in our office though, there are at least 5 others whom I know. You're right, one has to be able to clearly separate work and personal life. But that's just merely words coming out of our mouth, when it comes to separation, it's very difficult to say what will happen, maybe even the toughest men will break. Normal day to day, definitely not a problem but as Duke Red mentioned, i too would not prefer to 'eat and shit' in the same place. Coz if anything happen , then have to clean our own shit and said 'if i knew, i wouldn't have started this'. In the end, it depends on individual preference. This post has been edited by chong82: Aug 26 2009, 03:57 PM |
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Aug 26 2009, 06:07 PM
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QUOTE(whailun @ Aug 26 2009, 03:30 PM) I've came across these as well.. mine is a bit different.. we both know each other got the feeling on each other.. we both are career minded person and always think that office relationship cannot last long.. especially between 2 of us.. cuz we are both in the management level.. that's why we are still single now.. Oh... What a waste... Do you know that capable person can have life and work well balanced? Since you're in management level, you should get what it means. Why don't take the courage and appreciate a mutual relationship, are you really having no regrets if he is to leave you one day? Thank about it. |
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Aug 26 2009, 06:46 PM
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QUOTE(Amanda99 @ Aug 24 2009, 10:40 PM) Office relationships.....u admire someone, the person's in your office, you deal with the person every single day.....u think you're in love.....what should you do? Does office relationships have good endings? or.....like someone says.....in the end you might not even be friends anymore..... DIscuss ! U pay a price for everything. It's funny though, i've usually been able to remain good friends with my previous gf's so i don't see it as a huge issue, beside the gossips. It's inadvisable if it conflicts with your working responsibilities, eg: he's a tech support and you Analytics and Reporting or Boss/subordinate relationships. Even if you separate work from relationship there might be cases where you have to choose between relationship and work. With company politics anything can happen, it may get so bad that one of you may have to leave the company to continue the relationship. But if you are from 2 totally separate departments, i guess it wouldn't be such a huge issue. This post has been edited by Tak3shi: Aug 26 2009, 06:46 PM |
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Aug 26 2009, 07:10 PM
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QUOTE(cutiepooh @ Aug 26 2009, 10:39 AM) Is having affair in office acceptable???? coz many of others are pointing and talking back with one couple eventhough they are not working in the same department.. I don't know much coz I never been fallen in love with any guys in office.... It's pretty hard for me to avoid some of those who are nice to me in office, coz I heard others said and me myself also feel that they wanna be not just a colleague any kind of affairs are not acceptable if you are already in a relationship wif somebody..... |
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Aug 26 2009, 08:21 PM
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QUOTE(Duke Red @ Aug 26 2009, 11:43 AM) From what I've seen, chances are no. It's never a good idea to intertwine your business and personal life because let's face it, as much as we'd like to say, "it's business, not personal", it does get personal simply because we have emotions. It happens very frequently in agencies because they spend to much time in the office together and I've seen a lot more failed relationships than successful ones. In fact I don't personally know any couple who works together. Couples that do often try to keep it as quiet as possible because they don't want their bosses to know. It can affect productivity. One of one becomes the other's boss? There are just so many complications I feel it's best not to eat and shit in the same place. I should have read your post before i hit "Reply". But, i'd like to add, there are exceptions. I believe 2 mature people can make a working/personal relationship work irrespective of circumstances. |
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Aug 26 2009, 08:37 PM
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Nov 19 2009, 02:16 PM
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QUOTE(Amanda99 @ Aug 24 2009, 11:01 PM) well.....i tot of doing so....but scared will scare her off..... but we work well together....and i'm always there when she needs me....maybe not sure how to approach this....not much experience am been through that too..although that time am still with my ex bf, but still she's with me now.. we are very very very close, more than friend |
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Nov 19 2009, 03:37 PM
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Office relationship is ok if it works out in the end. If it didnt work out, it cant be that good.
There is no limit where and who you can and cannot fall in love with. Sometimes, you just fall or admire a colleague at work and try to work things out but possibly due to difference and priorities, or other events, things didnt work out. Both have to be cool with it. Depends more on how open minded the other half is. Just like you get dumped by a female colleague and eventually, she got marry and invite you, you have to be cool with it and attend the ceremony with your other colleagues. |
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Nov 19 2009, 03:45 PM
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PlanTheFutureForABetterPast ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Senior Member Posts: 664 Ratings earned: 0+, 0- Ratings given: 0+, 0- Joined: Oct 2009 |
It cool having a relationship with someone in office.
I use to with my manager's younger sister. She's now studying somewhere plus we don't keep in touch. In a way it's good. We are like fbs. |
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Nov 19 2009, 04:05 PM
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Look at all my stars!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Senior Member Posts: 5,431 Ratings earned: 0+, 0- Ratings given: 0+, 0- Joined: Jan 2003 |
Did you get a promotion or a demotion from doing that?
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Nov 19 2009, 05:36 PM
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It will work if everything goes smooth..
If not, once u both argued / break up, your stories goes all over the office and you would hear gossips everywhere within your office. And you also feel hard to deal with your ex regarding office works. |
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Nov 27 2009, 04:35 PM
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QUOTE(ITforce @ Nov 19 2009, 05:36 PM) It will work if everything goes smooth.. If not, once u both argued / break up, your stories goes all over the office and you would hear gossips everywhere within your office. And you also feel hard to deal with your ex regarding office works. With all those CNN reporters in the office, it will be difficult if there is a slightest hint of differences in the relationship. It is all well and good if everything is smooth but life isn't always like that right? |
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