What will u do if one day u found out that ur boyfriend was a gay or used to be a gay before u started a relationship with him. And u never knew about it till 1 day u found it out but he still didnt know that u knew his secret. he still looks like love u as usual. but u still not sure if he is still gay-ing



will u still trust him? since he kept the secret and do u think he trully love u?




it nvr happen to me... but i just got this idea pop up cause i saw many gays who married and had child then he just started to show his trueself after he get old.

If he is gay, I doubt he will show interest in you in the first place and the two of you would never get together and thus this scenario is invalid.

y couldn't happen? u didnt know that many gays like to kau girls for fun?

THink of it this way, are you straight?

Would you kau a girl for fun?


Same thing, homosexuals don't go kau-ing the 'same' (girls) gender for fun

It'd definitely turn me on if my gf is a lesbian...
I'd host an orgy party

then they are bisexual lo...

i saw many gays got gf woo.. =,=

if he WAS a gay, not a problem. if he's gay, why'd he be with you? Probably bisexual. Not a problem for me.

huh ? bisexual oso ok ?
why u can so weird tinking?
god gave male and female s partner and not gay / lesbian.

Learn to accept the facts....

bisexua is ok for u? @@""""""""""""""""""""""""""

r u a bisexual too?

u watch too much brokeback moutain already

There are more gay women than there is gay men.
50% of women are gay/bi.

If my boyfriend is gay, I will make sure to straighten him out.

haha..of course bisexual is ok la..
homosexual is KO only ma..

if he IS a gay, he wont be with you. Since he IS a G-A-Y.

if he WAS a gay, and if you cant go through yourself, both of you must sit down and have a talk.

sometimes gay or les still will find a opposite gender as their bf/gf d...
is normal.
coz in malaysia a lot kenot accept gay/les... so some of them tend to hav bf/gf even married just to go their normal life...
in msia here... gay/les = no future
unless u go oversea.

there is once i over read in newspaper, a guy who married. when make love with his wife, his wife don really show much interest... and her wife is kinda leng lui from wat i read he said..
then 1 day when he went out for work and forget take something. he turn back home see her wife is playing with her wife best friend.
is kinda hurt to see such case... but life is hurts.

some people.. to avoid accepting the fact that they're gay.. they will commit themselves into a relationship pretending that they're normal..

in the end also end up cannot because it's in the hormones, you cant overcome it ..

err... no such thing as gay women...

anyway... homosexuality is against muslim teachings if i not mistaken... tat's y malaysia goverment won tolerate homo's... correct me if i wrong...

If he was (meaning he changed to be normal) then I'll give him moral support.
If he's still gay...then I'll try to advise him to change.
Hope he does not have feelings towards me

I think ALL religion forbids homosexuality.

I know a case where this lesbian got a bf... then one day she confessed to him that she's les. He didn't want to let her go! @.@ So she thought up a plan... make a vid of her kissing another girl and send it to her bf...

Her mistake was: She did it in skool...
Consequenses: The vid spread all the way to the Student Affairs teacher
Conclusion: Kena buang sekolah.

Sad case Just to prove to your bf. I have no idea why he still wanted to hold onto her as well =="

Insecurity guy.
He should have just moved on.

bisexual is OK for you? WOW

yeah its quite natural .. some women are attracted to members of the same sex, tho they may not express this feeling publicly..

I think those polygamy guys like bisexual gals, its like dreams come tru.

u bet...

insecure no need til hold on so tight to a person not so straight gua... @.@

sometimes, there will be stage where ppl are confius. Important is to love each other and leave the past behind (esp for the guy)

if he is willing to tell u he WAS gay and he still wants to be with u.. i guess it's worth going on

Once you go gay, you won't go back..hehehe

I sympathise for the gay men out there who are pressured and stigmatized and feel that they need to conform to society norms, so they force themselves to get married so as not to disappoint the people around them.
Referring to the topic, if you ever did find out that your boyfriend is gay, sympathise him and let him free. It's not about you. Yes, you might feel that you were betrayed, but the guy has been betraying himself probably for the rest of his life.

Sometimes they themselves do not know that they are gay until after they're married and with children. I know that for a fact because one of my high school buddy is currently living with a 40 yr old divorced dad of 2 and he told me that.



I've certainly never heard of it. 2 of my buddies are gay and they used to bring me out to hang out with their gay friends and NONE of them ever went after girls after they've discovered their homosexuality.
Quoting one of my buddy "I can't get an erection when I look at girls, I just can't"
Are those REAL gay men that you're talking about?



It is not easy for them ok? Dealing with a society who condemns them for who they are and especially family members who shun them for being who they are. To be intimate with the opposite sex is torture for them. If you strip away gender preferences, they are just normal people who needs love and understanding too. Not to mention great taste in clothes!



Nope, some sects of christianity and judaism accept homosexuality. And as far as I know, some paganism performs homosexuality as religious rituals.

My ex is a gay..when he was wif me, he was bisexual. i did not believe him even he was frank wif me that he is a bi...he chose to leave me after he finds out, he cant lie to me anymore as he realised he is more happy wif guys than gals. he told me he do love me but it just that he love guys more than gals...i was heartbroken but i choose to let him go coz i want him to be happy. he seems to be much happier now...i do miss him alot but there's nothing much i can do to bring him back...sometimes i still recall back the sweet memories i had wif him...but i got to move on..

its harder to date with a bi, u have to fend off competition from both sexes

How do people know if they are bi homo or straight?

wah, bisexual. d@mn krazy

mm..if he is USED TO BE A GAY den i will just pretend like nothing ever happened..but if i found tat he is still gay when be with me..i will thk of..after he kiss de guy and erhem with the guy and come back to me..i beh tahan lo..

im not insulting homosexual or biosexual ppl. but if u do wanna be homemo or bio den please leave those who r not larr..wat for go n married a women but u r loving a guy?

children is the most innocent.

my family used to have 3 lesbian. but 1 of them aredi back to straight n getting marry end of year. who say can't?

if he/she willing to change den is ok to forget the past.

how to prove?
i dun think the ratio is this high as 50%

yes agree den..if really 50%, they all should apply to our G n get married...haha

Cool .. ur family got 3 les.. can get to know them .. eheheh..

still in 2ndary school?
wan break up just say bye lo. why so hard got to tell him im les etc bla bla bla? don hav to really prove it imo.


u've been pretty tough. . . great choice u made.

im a bi myself, but with consequences...

being a bi is not easy, its normal to fall for a guy, ppl are happy if i do so, but if i fall for a girl, thats when everything in the world seems to start falling.

not all girls are bi, not all girls can accept what their friend are, not all girls bother to continue making friends with u after finding out ur personality or even worst, u fell for her. ive fallen for quite a few ladies and non knows about this, keeping it to myself is so hard n painful, but i dont wanna miss out the great friendship if we just remain as friends. most of these girls are my best friends, either im too casual or i easily fall for people. i do not know. im good at hiding feelings so to them, im just like a happy go lucky girl, cheerful as always, leaving no signs to them.

i want to be normal like everyone wants me to be, maybe because i dont want to upset my family n friends. ive open up to some of my friends that im a bi and i always wonder what its like to go out with a girl. they think im just too bored n wanna try out something. at least i promised to them that i'll have a self control, i will not fall for any of my best friend that i cherish very very much.

the reason why i fall for girls sometimes is because they give me a kind of feeling that guy had never gave me. maybe because they guys ive dated last time isnt caring at all, or maybe girls just seem to be too nice n caring, they are like full of love. maybe i just want someone to care about me and love me, i dont care about their gender. i always wish that i can meet a nice gentleman whom will love me with all his heart so that i can start off my normal life.

and to those who dont understand why ppl go for gay/les/bi, they sometimes just wanna seek love n care from their partner, sometimes they r not in luck to meet someone opposite their gender, sometimes its maybe due to their hormones to make them abit gayish or tomboish. we may control ourself from confessing this out or not, but we cant control the feeling like someone just swept u off ur feet or ur crazy pumping heartbeat whenever u see that person.

just givin my opinion...

i understand how you feel, alexision. maybe because of your past experiences that affected you. Maybe you have not meet the right one yet. Dont give up so easily.

My ex has told me before he chose to be a gay because he feel he is weak and he cant protect me and give me the security that i need. He himself in need of someone to protect him and care for him. I understand this happen due to his upbringing. When he was small, he was always beaten by the father and he moved out from the house. he was left alone fending for himself to survive at the outside world.he spend more time with his buddies than his family. When he goes through tough time, it was his buddies at his side, saving him n protecting him. Maybe due to that, he feel a stronger bond wif guys..It makes him feel more secure than being wif gals. he did try to date other gals b4 me, but most of them cheated on him. i tried so hard to change his mind but i failed...

It's not easy to know that your gf/bf is a PLU when you're with them. But if that person is loyal, then he/she will only be loyal to you.

If a person is not loyal, it still sucks no matter he/she is straight or PLU.