Comfort... say jokes but not lame ones.
i thk the best one is just let the girls feel pampered...
Presents may work too...
but not always.

keep mouth shut...and stay far away....girls is too complicated to understand...

i agreed...especially pms...man better dig a hole and cover..

run! take cover! fire in the hole!! lolz...

girls like to be pampered when they down..
sometime can get aggressive, why dont u guys bought a rose or something they want and they like. that can lowering their down/angry/pms meter. lolz..

i agreed.. when pms, i just try not talk too much, dun make any jokes, n try to be as quiet as i can..

yes and be ball-less and duck for cover when the volcano erupts!

i thought girls preferred it if the guy was just....there with them, comforting them, and telling them everything will be alright? (although he actually doesn't go and fix anything since he's trying to comfort her)

At least that's what my ex preferred and my friends say they wished they bfs did

Comfort me and offer to lend me his shoulder to lean on

How come all guys answered de?
it would be nice if can hear more of the girls answer it.

Actually... it depends what type of girl and situation guys are handling la.
But... the point here is... GIRLS like to be pampered lo. There shouldn't be any denial for this. BELIEVE ME!

Even when they are having PMS. Just don't annoy girls to much during that period. This can make girls really mad we can break down crying without any reason. so...BEWARE!!!

Don't know why leh... Emotions really disturb duing PMS...

chocolate / ice cream ^^

Take her to a Zara sale.

not all girls like shopping though ----> take me for example. I HATE SHOPPING! it's a waste of time and money, all you do in a mall is walk around looking into stores/boutiques, and (if you're lucky) get something you don't actually need... either that, or you spend countless hours walking round and round a mall not getting anything at all...it's fun hanging out in a mall, but we've all got better things to do than window shop... haha

If a girl is down, leave her alone awhile then come back and try to solve the problem works everytime. Give her options on solving the problem. She needs to know that she's not the only one and that she has someone for backup. Like a child clinging to its mother - she needs reassurance .

Smart answer...lol

hi peichen!!! lol good to see u online too


^ SEE?? i can be smart when i want to

Ya la ya la... Quite cool la.
SHEEEEEEEEEESH.............................

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Added on December 22, 2007, 1:52 pm

What u say is extremely true.
If a girl feel they have no one to support them... No one by their side they kinda lose confidence la.
So yes... I support u...
Hahahaha

^^ woo hoo! lol,

wow, u r so wise, how i wish i have a gf lije u in the future.

there is this malay mix chinese gal in a different dept who was disturbed and harassed by an arab guest who seemed to want to woo her, i just so happened to pay her a visit in her dept as she was working alone. she told me to sit next to her as the guest keeps harassing her, so i stayed till the bugger came and fortunately he acted just like a normal guest would.

protected her in a way, not to mention i almost missed my last putra lrt home
the sad thing is she is 8 years younger and has a bf of 2 yrs.

U hate shopping? that's rare indeed....

Leave her alone awhile and talk later....that is so so true...

and you're gonna get the bill

guess everything has been said but no one said anything about hugging the gal and lending her a shoulder to put her head on.

take off ur shirts and pants then dance and shake ur butt infront of her, that will surely entertain her!

i did
well, subtly.

I juz want him to hug me if it's nothing to do with him. If it concerns him, I hope he is not too egoistic to apologise. A simple word of sorry said sincerely makes my heart melt and forgive him right away.

gurlz r unpredictable for me....lolzzzz

i think the best way is to hug her and ask her to cried out loud....

this could surely comfort her......

Solve? Wrong answer ..... women likes a good listener. Men loves to solve problems/issues but that's not what women looks for. Haven't you read Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Mars?

Men, listen and that will set you free. Don't ever try to solve when it isn't asked of you.

What do girls expect men to do when they are down.... hmmm..

Stop fidgeting with the cam recorder and do his work. LOL (ok stupid joke from the edison scandal)


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When i am feeling down, i would expect my guy to let me 'manja' him. Let me act like a small kid for that moment.

when im down?
hope he solves my problem
if down becos of him,then i need an apology and hand my hand again.
simple only

all oso must cater to gals,,,,,sigh

Many times, girls/women get upset over the simplest issue. And when you get upset like that, men don't understand why you all turn it into some big problem/sin. And when men don't understand, men can't apologise. Do you want us to just apologise with no meaning to it? Like this : "I'm sorry, but I don't know what I'm sorry for". Is that what you want?

One of the prob is, if you are down and the cause is us. Sometime we don't know it. But you expect us to know. And if we ask, you don't want to answer but yet want us to apologise?

But if you are feeling down, and the cause is NOT us, I normally would ask why, then shut up and listen. Only offer a solution if I'm asked. Otherwise, I just nod and my head and say, "aha, aha, yup, yup, I agree, you are right, oh you poor thing".

the most important i feel is just be there for her and listen to her...
she will feel relieve...
if she is your GF than a little hug will do with some light tapping on the back...
if she is your fren a little hug also will do but better not la, try give some gap...

basically just listen... dun be a problem solver, doesnt always turn out well...

some girls they tend to keep everything to themself, for this one i not sure how to make them talk or share...
coz currently have a friend now that consider in this type, maybe she did talk with others la... but it seems that she is not...

anyway, I am a happy person... be happy... cheers

i think as a guy, just spent time with her, and listen what she conplain
and giv her solution, or distract her to another place, if still cannot.i dun know wat to do lol

hahaha.. thats so true.. but how come girls dont understand it themselves?.. girls are really so unpredictable..

Gosh... the guys here saying girls are hard to understand should go read some Cleos la. Haha.

I'd talk to her, and ask her what's the problem. I'll be there listening to her. Give some hug every now and then. Then go for ice-cream sundae soon after.

Seriously guys, read some female mags

maybe some of them read too much man magz

agree but that's a sexist remark.. tell that to your mother



yeaps.. but sometimes still also have 2 show.. blur guys wont know what's happening... n end up kena



dont make silly remarks... here is not parliament... look what happened to datuk z...

I figured female mags are more interesting than men's. Men's usually balik-balik benda sama only wan, cars la, sex la, gadgets la. Haha.

Eh, just saw something, SeLrAhC in backwards read Charles. Haha!

If a girl cry in front of u how?
wat to do? suggest?

hmm...
some of them prefer to be let alone...
some prefer someone to hug...
some just a light tap at the back can lighten their sadness...

should see how the relation between you and the girl first...
1 wrong move will end up badly...

There is no solution to this

relationship r....
normal lo..
coz she is at Sg , cry in front ..when we chatting using webcam..
huh!..
wat a shock..
make me wanna cry also..hee

Expect only -->

-Bring me kai kai n shopping , he pays (I dun think would ever happen)
-Go for buffet / jap rest

Just hug me and buy me sushi dinner.

This is very subjective since it depends on the girls themselves.

For me,
I'd prefer for the guys to leave me alone for awhile.
But still drop me a line to tell me that he cares.

Guys and Girls here. i need ur help or more of an advice. let me start my story first. me and my girlfriend are together for 4 years now. we've been through a lot of ups and downs together. we love each other enough said. recently starting this year, i've got myself a permenant job and she furthering her studies in UK. At first we take the long distance relationship quite well with communicating via phone, sms, and mostly instant messenger. i usually woke up in 4am just to have a chat with her through IM until 8am. she had a trouble adjusting in new world with different environment, weather, no friends or aquintance, and most biggest is homesick. Things getting uglier when my job starting to demand more of my attention and got the better of me when a new project were assigned to me. i'm starting to lose focus on her as my boss often breathing down my neck for progress. i've started to woke up around 6.30am as i often sleep late around 2am or above due to overtime work. things were not so bright on her side either as she's getting more homesick, miss her family, friends, me and her experiment (she's doing PHD by the way) doesn't produce result like the way she've wanted; and i'm not there to cheer her up when she's down. so, after awhile she's beginning to act cold towards me, saying things that is 'empty' and hurting me. her words often makes me feel guilty. she also stop saying that she love me. i was wondering where could i've gone wrong. then after yesterday slow talk with her, she finally admit she's being cold because she doesn't want to hurt herself. she was crying a whole week last week and tell me that she thinks i'm not ready to be her gf. i was shock and i asked her why but i never get the answer. so guys and girls here, i need your advice on what should i do now. i don't want to end this relationship. not like this. thanks guys.

when i m depressed,

i'm longing to a hug n some condolence words from my bf..

that's enough for me..

haha

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Added on March 24, 2008, 12:41 pm

uMmm..
i think u hav to discuss wif her on this issue or ur relationship might b in a danger.
A bf is deemed to spare some times to concern n accompany his gf notwithstanding how busy he is wif his work..
girls tend to feel hurted if theirs bfs only care for their work n likewise,neglecting her.
communicaiton n understanding are crucial in a romance n also, to maintain a relationship. Nevertheless, v wil argue wif each other upon some small matters if v both lack of communication.
both muz b honest enough to convey thier thinkings n feeling.Otherwise,there wil b a lot of unhapiness n quarelling happened btw u n her.
anyway, juz talk to her n find out te best solution~
goodluck ^^

thank you so much for a very good advice. i will put it into action right away.

tell her a funny story about how the buay-

want the guy that i love to hug me tight tight..

sayang me...

100% useful and effective trick

ask her to go for shopping spree and u will pay for everything