Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true?

Emm, depends on individual. Some guy there like to get much of female frens then male frens. Still, they are just frens.

In my opinion, a gal and a guy could possible end up to be just good friends but probably not for ex-couple.

Why not? Girl and guy still can be friend without involving love.

can why not?

i got many good fren also gal wat

yes, I have lots of good girl firends. Depends on both sides really. Need to be open minded. I can tal/ask very personal things about girls and not feel ebarrassed of it. Thats how close we are

lol, too much influence from HK drama? ofcoz can become good friend la.

But last time i have one really good fren, alwiz tok to each other, when i got problem he will advise me and so on.. but suddenly he just ignore me for long time and i really dun understand. So one day i just call him up... you know wut her say? Because i have new bf already. Also i consider other ppl oso never consider him. I only treat him as my good fren wor, and he never even give any hint when he know i break off with my ex..(or may be i dun get the hint ) So now we r not that close already lor.. hardly even contact..

I have a close friend who's a female, too bad I fall for her....now we're not as close anymore

But anyway i think it's not necessary i will fall for a girl if she's my best friend....coz here, i fall for her because there's things about her that i like........had she have a bf earlier before I fall for her, or she is err....let's just say looks that don't fits my taste ......this would not have happend and we'll still be good friends.....so it's possible, depends...

@ångel
Wei. Working hour don't goof off leh. Goofing off at work is my job wor.

Guys and girls can be close friends, but they need to have an understanding partner as well. Otherwise the other party may feel jealous, etc. *Looks at your dit*

But hor, you fren me coz you wan "free lunch" wor. How?

that means he is not your 'good fren' . He is somehow 'on' you. Just ignore him, he wasn't really being 'true' to you , in terms of friendship.

Get over it .

can not be good friend but, friend yes lorr.

"Rambut sama-sama hitam, hati lain-lain"

Depends on each individual lah actualy.

Everything just "Maybe..."

wah you ar.. just seeking opinion oso u "jealous" ar? My hubby din even make a noise ya means i am lucky to get one understanding hubby to allow me to be fren wit u isit?

Ok lor.. one day free then give u "free lunch" back lor.. Any way now off work liao lor.. bye bye! going back liao

ångel> I think your that fren is being paranoid.

of course man and women can be good friends, until they end up locked together in a small room, then that's when the hormones start talking (unless one of them has terrible B.O that is, hahah).

well... i am glad that i have 4 best friends... 3 of them are guys... and our relationship is still very good for so many years... this one i can very sure... we sleep together, do many things together, we go out with each other's bf/gf... things are still very smooth... i even place them right after my family and before my bf...

i think if ex lovers can be friends without the past feelings coming back, that would be very good... coz they understand each other most... as for me, NOT YET... hhahahahaa... still dont know how to face my ex like a normal friend yet...

wel, here's my 2 cent
He have feelings for u, and logically it's not possible for him once he knew u had a bf. So he has to let go.

Although friendship is improtant, there are things more important than that. namey our own life. i understand how he feels like one he knew u had a bf, and so he decided to let go, else he'l continue to be hurt, and the only way to do so is forget about u. how to do that u knows it too.....that's one sacrifice we sometimes have to make when we fall for a girl. either both will get closer or further apart.

ångel
Other party refers to bf/husband/gf/wife lar. Aiyoh. Simply put, if you are too close to your friend of the opposite sex, your significant other may feel jealous (depends on person). Dun lar simply drag me into it. I'm innocent leh.

guys are fun to have as friends. and they're easier to talk to than girls cos they tend to be more sociable

sure .. why not?? .. why don't u make a poll for this question .. and let's see the result ...

your friend is true, actually when u are too good with someone, there might be some sparkling in btwn, then it happens to be...from good frens...then... couples??

Erm... I dun really think so le.. I hv a few females fren which we are really good with each other... But I really dun hv any sparks with them... Maybe cuz we're buddies for too long edi... So, wun hv feel lo...

Hmm, with ex also can become good frens la...hehe...All also depends on urself onie....

By the way, not all guys is like wut u said le angel.. We become frens cuz we can clicked on to each other... Tat's all.. Its not like I really wan something from u...

gal and boy sure can be a good frens la....
i got some female frens like to join us and most of their frens are boys !

y not..
if the guy is gay and u are a les



anyway, i believe in platonic true friendship... most of my good friends are male..so my answer is 'Yes'

definately yes.

girls are more emotional and sensitive, whereas guys are more logical. (not all, but maybe most...)

when i need to talk to somebody, it's easier to solve the problem when i can get the girls' side point of view and their perspective.

when same sex talk about a problem, it usually ended up the gang all b1tched about the same thing... and nothing get solved.

(no offence to anyone)

Despite My constant Bullsh*t about Nature wanting us to reproduce and everything is about procreation, I would have to say "yes" to this.

guys and girls cant be friends/best friends? That's the most absurd thing ever.

Everrrrrrrrrr. That's like the urban legend about breaking mirrors on the friday of 13th. geez.

Typing with the stereo is a bad habit that apparently what ppl who agreed to this statement are doing.

Last time I also think can one lor.. but after that i really think it depends on wut the others were thinking oso lor.. you might only want to be fren but the others is not thinking the same, if you are too good to him, then it will coz misunderstand that you are giving chance to him. So now how good oso i will keep a gap lor...

Hmm I think it's possible but somehow it's just kind of difficult to maintain that friendship. Like what DiT said earlier... we might think about friendship with them only, but for the other party, they might think differently from us. For some point, from close friends, 1 party or the other might develop some extra feeling towards the other. But, I have a few close guy friends. However, I have a few close guy friends before which ended... they have some special feelings. :S

can

i listen to girl's problem

then i tok to girl n get comfort

advise her, she tease me, wish her, she tease me again....wat the..???

guys are like that.
especially young guys... they will start to "imagine" things if you're close to them.

draw your line... before you're too close to them.

but still that doesn't make guy/girl to become best friend impossible.

i have a best friend (girl) who i only talked less than 5 times for the last 5 yrs. and still we are good friends.

good friends always appear when you need help...

usually guys cant draw the line and scare away the girls.some even take them as their pet sister.so as i c as long as both of them can draw the line,y not?

a gaL and a guy cannot be bEst fren coz the gaL will fall for the guy or thE other way...

Yes GOD.

hahahahhahaha.

why? coz GOD said so.

and to top it off, it's written in the great book of universal law too.

hot damn this is funnay.

why not?!

if either of party dun always think about "man and woman are impossible to be good fren" and they know how to draw the line, i believe it is possible. Around my side got many good male frens, even...... hehehehe.

However, i still think my best fren would be a gal in the end because still gal understand what gal needs.

well... i had 2 best gal friend... one left... coz she says she fallen for me... another, occasionally chit chat go for a drink to catch up times....

and... well... feelings for both of them are mutually best friends....

so... it does prove... that guys and gals can be friends...

well...think of the consequences if u jeapardize this relationship...u can't depend the same sex to talk to u about certain stuffs... u can't simply read the megazines to know more... and... u can't waste the friendship which u have build for so long....

my two cents....

Sure.. why not. I have a 7 years grilfriend & lots of female best friends
In fact, most of my friends are female Din's see any problems here

False!!!!! Salah salah salah!!

I have plentiful of good guy friends. I dont see them wanting me for something. We have good time together all the time. It never fails and I do not know why. I have so many guy friends which I am close with that sometimes I feel damn pampered yet frustrated. They treated me like a little girl and like a guy too!!. They offer me sweets/dinner/coffeebean/movies and they can wack me damn hard on the back during games and talk porno in front of me.

So whats wrong having good guy friends. At least I can click with them, whats wrong???

why not? last time i have 1 very very close gal fren. we can even shopping together, watching movie together, play together and so on. all my frens said we are couple. now she married. i don feel sad, i only bless her...

I had a girl best friend once, gave her a ride to the college everyday for 3 semester, I didnt feel anything for her, lots of ppl said she looks like kelly chen and wants to "kao" her, but to me she's just normal. By "ride", I mean on a bike with two wheels, and still nothing happened, now that's the best proof that we are best friends.

we help each other a lot, on assignments, project, lecture, etc.

she even talk about her problem with her boyfriend with me sometimes (nothing serious, just occasional couple squabbles)

Yup, y not? My good friend is a guy. When we have problem, we'll share to each other. Even our triumphs and failures too.


As for my case, my good friend start to treat me cold after i have a bf. I ask him y he did so, he said that he dunwan any misunderstanding between my bf and me. I told him it's ok. So, we're still good friends now but sometimes my bf jealous, but that's just another thing coz we're talking about best friends here mar

can ma.i find it memorable if friendship day can c 2 pairs of frens,boys n gals holding each others shoulders posing in front of the camera.

Can but it's not like you can do that with everyone. I accept, girls belong to girls group and guys belong to their own groups, because that's what make us so different and special !

can happen but quite hard and rare

both muz be very close and open and can talk about everything

The only reason it's rare is due to too many hornay men!!!.

although there are cases where the girls crossed the line first, but most of the time, it's becoz of the hornay men that cant keep a friendship and must turn it into a deeper love affair.

arghhhh.

I got a good friend that is female for more than 10 years liao.

yeah why not? good friends can do tings also... like in the friends series....

^ haha

hmm, their 'relationship' is quite abnormal ...

but it's fun if there's really tat kind of 'relationship' in the real world ...
so far, i havent meet any ...

but... i think that even how close both guy and gal together, sure there's a little bit spark between them... example: if there's one girl suddenly appear to that guy and that guy just "layan" her much than his best friend, the girl sure will have a bit jealous... either both way also might happen!. i saw that incident happen infront of me! so... u all get what i mean rite, guys and girls...

can happen as well as cannot happen. If so happen the fren ur close with and you developed feel for her, then its natural cause something about her/him attracts you to developed that kind of feeling.

That feeling might not developed also and the relationship will always remain as best friend.

To develop feelings does not entirely depend on being best fren or not. The feeling just happens and its not up to us to control. The chances are higher if your best fren is of the opposite sex.